trade/request ofw still stressful
So our lawyer advised that since our first resquest to trade was ignored, we should request again with a message stating we are making a request. So my husband did. The family wedding is in october, in the virgin islands and she knows this from talking to the kids. We simply asked for a weekend swap due to a "family wedding out of town". This is what BM sent back.
(Ex husband ,)
I am unable to give you a definite answer on your October weekend trade request at this time. With it being so far into the future I have no way of knowing right now if it will conflict with our schedules. I will do my best to have an answer for you as far in advance as time will allow.
BM
OUR RESPONSE(NOT YET SENT):
BM
Asking for the trade in advance is to request it before you make conflicting plans and to allow me time to make travel plans. If you are unwilling to trade please mark the request denied.
(My husband)
I don't know what else to do. We need to confirm. This is not like other weddings, we need to give advanced notice for a destination wedding. It's not like we can just show up.
Jeff
I am unable to give you a definite answer on your October weekend trade request at this time. With it being so far into the future I have no way of knowing right now if it will conflict with our schedules. I will do my best to have an answer for you as far in advance as time will allow.
Audrie
How annoying! It's in
How annoying! It's in October you think she'd be a little more flexible. Also just a heads up it looks like you may have copied and pasted then meant to delete but at the bottom of your post you include names in the response. I know we try to not do that around here. Super secret spy identities.
We DO want to take the kids
We DO want to take the kids with us. It is my husband's sister getting married and SHE wants the kids in her wedding.
see this is exactly why my
see this is exactly why my fiance doesnt want to use OFW. its not going ot magically make BM any more responsive. its not going ot make her magically start following the parenting plan. the frustrations will still continue.
i get that it tracks everything, but email does the same thing. if she cant reply to an email, she isnt going to start replying to OFW messages. and email/text is free. OFW is $100.
We do like OFW, it shows when
We do like OFW, it shows when she logged on, when she read the messages, (she can ignore email read receipts and say she never got them, didn't check her email). And OFW has drastically cut down on the face to face arguing BM would do. Now that it is in the CO that all communication must be through OFW, she has no option without breaking the CO.
And OFW will only be needed for the next 6 years, he pays for BM to use it. so $1200 flat and he does not have to talk to her in person, he thinks is worth it.
Agreed. I would cancel the
Agreed. I would cancel the request & if the kids ask just let them know that it's their mom's weekend so they will be spending time with BM then.
My husband has thought of
My husband has thought of adding that if he can't give the bride and groom the advanced notice they are requesting the kids will be forfeiting being involved in the wedding. He thought it might look bad to guilt trip it. What do you think?
I think that's something that
I think that's something that needs to be said. Because it is true. You can't just throw them in the wedding last minute or pull them out last minute. I'd say something like "A response is needed by ________ to let the bride and groom know if the children will be participating in the wedding. If no response is received they will be notified that the children will not be in the wedding and this request will be withdrawn."
You can't just take them if
You can't just take them if its the custodial parents weekend. I'm assuming the wedding is of people barely known to the kids if known at all. Cancel the request and take all her power away from her.
Sure it would be nice for the kids to take a trip to the V.I.'s but they have a lifetime to pick their own destinations. It would only half surprise me if in a some weeks she said its OK to take them. Once they can't jerk you around all the fun is gone.
I HATE evil little biotch
I HATE evil little biotch power tripping BM's who have nothing better to do than ruin trips for their kids.../vent over.
The WORST thing is that she
The WORST thing is that she is only hurting the kids.
Do we want them to go? Yes.
Do we NEED them to go? HELL NO! It would be aweosme for my husband and I to have a second honeymoon at an all inclusive resort over a long weekend!!!!
Who is missing out?????
THE KIDS!!!!
They miss going to a tropical island, miss a vacation, miss seeing their aunt being married, miss being in the wedding, miss the entire experience!!!
I have a feeling what BM is trying to pull is that SHE KNOWS my husband and I will go with or without the kids,.... and she wants to be able to tell the kids "THEY WENT WITHOUT YOU"
Well we will find out at 5pm
Well we will find out at 5pm tomorrow if the second request has been "not answered by the deadline". She will look like an ass.