Yet another BM problem.

I think a lot of us had problems with the BM constantly calling DH or BF for whatever the reason may be. To me I feel she mainly wants to be a pain in the ass or a pain in OUR asses. So eventually there’s the talk of, “Honey, these calls are getting ridiculous. And they’re not even about the kids. It’s about personal stuff. Can you tell her to call or text when it’s just about the kids?” So he has the talk with her, and whether she pulls an attitude or not, she agrees.

My problem is this. So my FDH had the talk. She agreed to text or call only if it has to deal with their kids. Now she text or calls him several times a day (4 out of 7 days a week) but it’s “just about the kids.” And seriously, it is just about the kids. Like these past few days they’ve been planning his daughters to come over this weekend but the story keeps changing and changing. He doesn’t have planned visitations. One second she says, “Can you meet me and the girls at this time.” A few hours later it’s, “No wait, how about this time instead?” Another time, “Are you gonna take the girls out to eat?” FDH responds with, “I thought they could eat at my place.” Her response is, “You’ll get the girls another weekend I’m sure your wife can cook then.” She now calls me his wife when we’re not even married yet. Yes, I rolled my eyes to that remark cause for one, it’s none of her business and two, I actually wasn’t going to be home that Saturday to even cook dinner. God, I’d enjoy slapping her. The next day, “So and so wants to go to the movies so we need to change the time again. How about this time?” A few hours later. “You need to drop so and so back off to me that same day after the movie.” Next day. “Did I tell you what time the movie starts?” And just keeps going on and on.

So even though the texts or phone calls have stopped being personal, now they just seem to be all about the kids. It’s nuts! Now my FDH is agreeing that it’s ok she’s texting this much because it is all about the kids. I said, “But it seems like no matter what she’s texting you bs stuff about the kids just to keep talking to you and keeping her presence known like she still exists. She’s making the kids an excuse to talk to you.” I want to flip out but I’m holding back!

Has anyone else ever had this problem.. is this normal BM behavior?