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Submitted by ej'scrazy on Wed, 10/16/2013 - 5:58pm

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At what point is this really considered?

I ask, as DH had built a case about how BM doesn't place a priority on academics, doesn't take care of basic necessities, and other issues (constant changes to schedule--unstable for the kids). However, after going to speak with the 'mediator,' he was told that there's no abuse/neglect (CPS wouldn't get involved, so it's not severe enough) and she's not on drugs, therefore, she (the mediator) cannot deny time to BM, despite it not being in the kids best interest.

So, where do we go from here?

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Submitted by Patsy on Wed, 10/16/2013 - 6:19pm

How old are your Skids? How long have you been the custodial parents? How do the Skids feel about maybe not seeing their mom anymore? I have been witness to court cases involving this. If you can give me more info I might have some suggestions.

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Submitted by ej'scrazy on Wed, 10/16/2013 - 6:45pm

The kids are in the tween years, and they have been divorced for about five years. The kids would still see their mom, DH doesn't want that to end. He just wants to make sure that the necessities are covered--which BM doesn't seem to do but 'talks' a good game.

We normally have the kids 70/30, but more recently it's been following the 50/50. BM keeps wanting the schedule to change (and I'm sure to a 3rd party, the changes seem legitimate), but being around this as long as I have, it makes it difficult to see that it's about the kids, as it seems its more like what's best for BM.

If you need more details, I can share, but I'll send ya a private message. I'm hesitant to put too much out there and have my situation be 'outed'.

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Submitted by Stupidlyoptimistic on Wed, 10/16/2013 - 10:49pm

I'm curious why the mediator is speaking as someone who decides the case. I ask because I am currently going through the process to become a certified mediator, and we are not allowed to give legal advice or decide a case. In my state, the mediator is strictly there to help the parties come to an agreed resolution.