So, Last Thursday was SD Pumpkin Patch day with her preschool class. At the beginning of SD's school year BM and FDH had a talk about 'Turning a new leaf' (I posted about it)
After that conversation between FDH, BM and her BF (I was not involved, I have TOTALLY disengaged from BM) BM told FDH during this conversation that she would like to 'get know me better'. *eye roll*
So she told FDH that if I wanted to attend ANY of SD's School activities that I was more than welcome to. I DO NOT attend anything without FDH.
ANYWAYS, So Pumpkin Patch day was on a Thursday, BM texts FDH on the Sunday before, 'I can't Make it to SD's Pumpkin day, I have more important things to do, and we have already taken our son to get pumpkins... BUT BF wants to take her, are you or MDmom going to go?'
FDH had asked me to go with him (he is easily overwhelmed in crowds when there is little to no organization) I said Sure, we can make it a family thing, and get the pictures I need for baby books, photo albums, Scrapbooks ect.
So BM texts him this, at first FDH told BM that her BF was more than welcome to join us at the pumpkin patch. To which BM's reply was 'Well, BF thinks it would be Weird if he were to go and you guys were there. So could he just take her and drop her off when they're done?'
I laughed at the request, Because I think it is VERY overstepping for BM and her BF to request such a thing! FDH was PISSED that BM would even ask such a thing. again I just giggled to myself because this is the monster HE had created!
ANY time BM asks for SD on our time she gets it, Father's day she asked for SD for a few hours so that her BF could 'Have a full father's day' I told FDH I wouldn't do it if I were him, But I'm not him. and BM's BF got 4 hours with SD on Father's day. and FDH was upset the whole day because of it. I said nothing to him to try and cheer him up, because he did it to himself.
FDH text BM back and told her that we need to get past the weirdness for SD. There are more activities/field trips in the year, and that BM and BF need to get over it. FDH and I would be attending mostly all of her school things (If not me than FDH), and that if they didn't want to because it's 'Weird' then that was on them. But we will not not attend something for SD just because of them. and he reiterated that her BF was more than welcome to join us.
I had a little party in my mind for FDH, Just when I feel like he has let go of the reins he pulls them back with all his might!
*Clap*clap*clap* FDH.
Needless to say, Bm's BF never showed.
Later that evening BM text FDH and said that if it was just him going her BF would have gone. but because I was going too he thought it would have been too weird.
again I laugh, cause they don't know me, a side from my name and what other people have told them (which is mostly False anyways)! hahaha! If they want to try to make shit weird, I can make it WEIRD! hahahaha!

Has anyone had something similar happen to them? If you have what have you done... OR what WOULD you do?