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Submitted by Someoneelse on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 1:42pm

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So, sd was completely DEVASTATED that she didn't go to my brother's wedding.... my brother went to the JP and got married... my mother (last minute offered to take my kids) i was working.... I DIDN'T GO.  Not that i didn't want to, he just never really set a date, until last minute, and they went to the JP. But she was soooooo upset that she found out through Facebook (her mom is an acquaintance if my brother's wife,  she's the type that if she meets you once, she friend requests you on fb, Instagram, and everything else). Sd was soooo upset, it warranted a phone call from BM saying that sd feild so left out of everything, taking about how sd feels like she isn't wanted at these events, that DH isn't making his daughter a priority. Like literally NOBODY, other than my parents,  my sister who doesn't work, and last minute my daughters went. This was 2 years ago. 

I got an invited for a cousin's wedding, sd was RIGHT TF there when i opened the invite.  I said,  oh hey, you're even worth us that weekend, DH and BM don't have to swap weekends or anything. I mentioned,  "i know how hurt you were about not going to my brother's wedding". She straight up told me that NEVER happened!  I was like, "you mean you don't remember being so hurt that you didn't go to that wedding?"

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Submitted by ESMOD on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 1:56pm

So was it really SD upset.. or was she upset in the moment like when you missed out on a trip to get ice cream.. but years later you won't recall that specific instance.. and was it BM blowing it up into a bigger thing than it was.

Kids get their feelings hurt in so many micro ways... they are not likely to remember every fit they threw.

 

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Submitted by Someoneelse on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 2:29pm

Lol i agree, i think she could have probably cared less originally, but i think BM blew it up for her, but sd did come over acting as though her father just completely forgets her existence, and that he just really doesn't caste.  She was 14 at the time, not exactly a young child, dio I'd think if i had brought it up, she'd remember.... but she really acted as though i was making this up

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Submitted by Someoneelse on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 2:23pm

I personally think BM fueled it. Sd did come over talking about how she never gets to go to birthday parties, weddings, and other "things" that's its like DH just forgets her when she's not there.  Also sd is 16yo, not exactly a young child. 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 3:36pm

Yeah that was BM all the way. My brother is getting married in two weeks and skids weren't invited. We don't have those issues when it comes to that because BM never sees her kids. She didn't invite them to her own wedding that skids knew nothing about LOL. 

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Submitted by GrudgingSM on Tue, 05/04/2021 - 2:02pm

This happens with my SDs as well. Things that feel like such a big deal in my memory, they can hardly recall at all, and they were the ones that made it a big issue! Like one didn't even remember threatening me. She just completely wiped it from her memory. And the other doesn't remember when she snuck her mom into her dads house to go through my things. Like these aren't small events, but somehow they have goldfish brains and can't recall them? Once they get the attention that they want for their plight, they just move on? I genuinely don't understand.