While running around and playing with her sister in our house Friday, SD8 fell and hurt her arm. She immediately got up crying, clutching her arm. We sat her down, gave her some ice and tried to calm her down a bit. 15 minutes later we realized a trip to the ER was necessary; SD8 had not calmed down at all.

DH dragged screaming and inconsolable SD8 to the ER (about 10 mins away).

SD8 was checked in at 7:15pm. There is no cell reception in the hospital. She had x-rays; doc said he didn't see a break but it was pretty swollen. So he wrapped her arm in a soft cast and referred them to an orthopedic doctor for follow up within 7 days. SD was cleared for school (no gym) and otherwise normal (but limited physical) activity.

DH called BM from the car on the way home at 8:17pm. Told her what happened and that he had a copy of all the discharge paperwork for her. She asked a few questions about what happened, he answered. She asked to talk to SD; DH allowed it. All in all, very uneventful. Didn't hear another peep from her all weekend.

Until Sunday afternoon.

Barrage of texts and emails start saying she is picking skids up early so she can take SD8 to a follow up appt first thing on Monday. DH replies saying their verbal agreement (with the parent coordinator) was that he would keep them Sunday nights. No appointment had been scheduled (doctor office doesn't even open until 8am Monday) and DH would take them to school Monday. If an appointment was scheduled, we would be sure to get SD8 there, or to school for pick up later in the day.

Wrong answer, I suppose. BM continued to go off. Claiming that she has a legal right to get her daughter from him since she had been injured in his care. On and on about how she is SOOO worried about her (note, she never once tried to call or asked to talk to SD8, which he definitely would have allowed). DH ignored for the rest of the day. We suspected she would call the police, and we were right. Luckily, we foresaw that coming and left the house (not because we were afraid of her, but because we wanted to spare the kids that entire scene). BM filed a report and left.

DH called doc this morning to schedule follow up appointment. Earliest she can get in is 1pm today. DH takes skids to school, BM is there waiting. Trying to get SD8 to leave with her, who doesn't want to go. She's excited to go into the school and show her friends her cast. DH tells her the follow up isn't until 1pm; so they can just pick SD8 up later in the day. She'd been cleared for school, no reason to miss the whole day. BM walked away and sat in her car. Clearly ready to explode.

Now .. DH calls his lawyer, who calls the parent coordinator to get confirmation of the verbal agreement stating DH has Sunday nights. Coordinator replies saying "Well I have notes here referring to a verbal agreement, but there are no details as to what that is, so I would have to defer to the custody agreement" (which says custody switches at 6pm Sundays). Goes on to say "It's really unfortunate they resorted to police action before trying to come into my office for another session".

The WHOLE point of the coordinator was to document the new agreement (DH gets Sunday evenings on his weekends), which she advised AGAINST doing formally with the court. She said to abide by the verbal until another natural change comes and it can be formalized at that time. It was AGAINST DH's better judgement to listen .. but the coordinator's opinion matters in the court, and she can be subpoenaed (she's not a mediator). It generally looks bad to disregard her advice before giving it a chance to work (or not, in this case).

And now it's biting him in the ass.

DH's lawyer is filing paperwork to make Sundays permanent today. He tried the civil route and did the coordinator thing, and it got absolutely nothing resolved. Every single weekend has been SOMETHING.

I'm just exhausted and so tired of her crap