Now just for fun :)
I feel so good today:) I finally got into a peaceful groove yesterday and today I woke up with a whole new attitude. The toxic people (everyone in any way related to DH) have been cut off. I don't have to care what DH is doing right now - it isn't going to come back to me somehow. I love it.
The last connection that I have to any of the skids is on Facebook. SD18 friended me a couple months ago after not talking to me and boycotting our house for a year. She is in college now 200 miles away so I was hoping at the time that it was her way of reaching out after getting away from BM. Nope - I totally think BM friended me or asked her to. I KNOW that BM has her account access and uses it. BM accidentally went off on me once on her daughter's account because she forgot to log out. SD18 is on Facebook all the time and "likes" or comments on everything BM and her mom's gross friends do, but has never messaged me or commented - even to ask about DD4 (who she supposedly used to love). Now that DH and I are over, I'll unfriend her eventually, but I kinda like the idea of BM having what she assumes is secret access to my life.
Any idess for posts to bother BM? I already have one up about alimony, with all my friends chiming in about what a low life leech she is:)
what would be even better
what would be even better would be to make that comment visible only to sd. i have fucked with people like that before. fdh's friend wanted to read every single thing i posted and find some hidden meaning in it that i was cheating on fdh. so i started posting shit that was only visible to her, like "can't wait to see you tonight! <3", etc. then when bm goes ballistic, no one else will know wth she's talking about! leave it up for a day or 2 so you know she saw it, then delete it. }:)
I'm all for screwing with the
I'm all for screwing with the ex, just remember that facebook can be admitted in some court cases. My friend's lawyer told her to completely delete her fb account until after the divorce. I'd hate for you to end up getting screwed.
BUT....I think the best revenge is the subtle, "I got a secret" that will DRIVE nosy people nuts trying to fish for details. "Today was the BEST DAY EVER!!" "Got some fabulous news today!"
Good idea:) I'll start doing
Good idea:) I'll start doing that. I'll also put up a great photo of me in my swimsuit this summer. I've been working out like crazy and BM is gaining every pound I lose. I doubt I'll stay friends with SD18 that long, but I'll just make sure that the posts that I want BM to see are public.
I have one photo of BM that I saved to my desktop from Facebook. It's her with two friends at a day spa pool in bikinis. She looks HORRIBLE. Like cringe worthy horrible, with fat and celllite dripping off her. She totally thinks of herself as this little hot thing and doesn't see that she is headed to hell in a handbasket in the looks department. After all her comments to me about how I need to work out, once I am not friends with SD18 anymore, I can't wait to post that photo for all my friends to comment on, lol.
I already have a default
I already have a default divorce agreement with DH from last June - the judge just has to sign the final judgement. No worries in court for me. I couldn't care less what BM submits to family court with DH:)
I am new here Redsonya, from
I am new here Redsonya, from what I have read I assume you have thrown in the towel and are getting divorced? How long were you married? I have been with DH 3 yrs married for a little over a year and would LOVE if my marriage would magically get better, but unless SS and BM move to a different continent, and DH suddenly grow balls and learn how to respect me and get help for his other unrelated issues, I don't see that happening. How do you get to that point of " I just don't give a flying f*#k at all what you do DH!" How did you let go? How did you say to hell with it and let the BM know she won? That is how I see it anyway, like if I leave, everything she and SS have done worked, they ran me off, our marriage is over, I will become someone he used to know, and they will still be in his life.
I was married for two years,
I was married for two years, with him for three. I'd like to say that his drinking problem made it easier to leave him, because that would make sense, but when I met him he was totally sober and (when sober) has alot of attractive qualities. However, two years of hard drinking (never confrontational, but non-functional in life), will make anything you might have had going for you, dissapear.
Top this off with a psycho of an ex (someone who would call screaming on our honeymoon and wedding night, PASes on Facebook regularly, hangs out with DH's family and tells complete lies, has a new boyfriend in and out of the house every couple months, on every type of public assistance, and gets drunk regularly herself - you get the picture) and skids who have been taught nothing but being passive agressive and entitled/users, and you have a lethal combination for any marriage.
DH was on house arrest for his 2nd DUI since we had been married, wasn't contributing financially at all (except a couple hundred bucks here and there), I was having to host his horrible SS13, and hear all kinds of crap about not having his BM's nephew at my house for visitation, and DH was basically checked out drunk for the week of Valentine's Day and our anniversary. That was it for me. I put up with WAY too much before leaving. My one good decision was to get DH to participate in and sign a default divorce agreement the year before (right after he got his 2nd DUI) so that when he realized how serious I was about leaving him, he couldn't fight me on anything.
My biggest regrets at this point are staying with my DH when I knew that he didn't have balls. I will never be with another man who doesn't treat me like I am number one, period. If that means I am single for the rest of my life, fine. But I won't go through this back and forth with another woman and kids without a strong man ever again.
His ex sounds a lot like my
His ex sounds a lot like my DH's ex. My DH does not have a drinking problem but he has a lot of issues and SS is just bat shit crazy. MY DH has proven to me time and time again that he has ZERO balls. NONE. and I think this makes me dislike him more than any of the other crap. To see him, this man, I once thought was such a MAN, be so spineless, be so dominated by his 5 yr old son and see him let BM run the show instead of stand up to her, just makes me full of disgust for him and for the fact that I have created this life. I have already made the decision that if and when this marriage is no longer salvageable, I will NEVER date another man if he has children, I don't care if it is Brad Pitt himself. NO F'ING WAY. PERIOD. If I were to ever even have the strength to meet people again that will be my first question, "KIDS?" "YES" "BYEBYE".
hehehe! you think exactly
hehehe! you think exactly like me! i blocked sd and her bf last may after recieving a shitty message from sd telling me what i am supposed to be doing for her and how it's unhealthy for her dad when i don't do what she thinks i should for her. :?
i started making a few things on my page public because i have a very strong feeling that she has her friends or bm look me up just to see if she can see anything thru their pages. i had my page completely private, but i thought 'to hell with it', if she wants to snoop, i'll give her something to see. the only things i make public are my brags about my kids and simpole things like that. like you, i laugh that she is likely checking me out daily and thinking she's really pulling one over on me by seeing things thru someone else's account. the things i don't want her to see do not get posted publicly. i would expect that by now a normal person would be bored with hearing me talk about the cute things bs does and about bd's accomplishments. she is looking because she wants dirt. she wants to find something out (oh how she would love to find out i am pregnant and think she wasnt supposed to know) or to see things that she can do what her gramma and fdh's bitch friend were doing last year, which is to twist anything i say into something unrecognizable and find scandal in it.
even though she is finding nothing that she can actually do anything with on my page, i bet she still checks it constantly. and probably thinks i'm stupid and she's sneaky because she can see stuff. if it makes her day to read me doting on my kids like she thinks i should on her but don't, have at it.
lol - whatever, using your 18
lol - whatever, using your 18 year old daughter's account to spy on the new wife is the real "playing games on FB". I've put up with enough in the past couple years. I like the feeling of being able to do whatever I want and not having to worry about BM or the skids wrath.
I have completely blocked BM,
I have completely blocked BM, her entire family, and any friends I think she may use to look at my stuff. I have also made my page as private as possible. I do however have an entire board on pinterest devoted to her worthless ass. Just funny pics and stuff that I post to sort of vent I guess.
I blocked BM, her family, and
I blocked BM, her family, and all her friends on Pinterest - they wouldn't stop searching all 2000 of my pins and making nasty comments!
isn't it funny in a sad and
isn't it funny in a sad and pathetic way that they care so much about you when you don't give a rip about them? that's what makes me laugh at sd20. she is so desperate to know every detail of my daily life, she cares so much about making sure i see her and her kid every time they come in the store, she goes out of her way and stays a ridiculously long time just to walk past me over and over, and for what? i still don't care about her. i'm still not interested in her kid. i'm sorry, but i find it funny when steps and in laws or exes devote that much time and energy to us, because i would never do that for them!
She has yet to have the nerve
She has yet to have the nerve to comment or try to actually follow me, but she has to know that the board is for her and that is fine. If she starts messing with me on there, I will just block her from there too.
DH's 2nd wife (no kids with
DH's 2nd wife (no kids with her) stalks both of us. She kicked DH out with barely the clothes on his back after 15 years of marriage to go back to her first DH.
She's an evil evil person who wanted DH to have nothing. So I know she is seething when I put up pictures of DH in his tux at various events or a picture of DH and I with our Senator, etc. Or I post from a club or event that she could never get admitted to.
DH is clueless and has no idea this is going on. He's such a sweet guy that he is not even hostile to her.
Same here! The BM is just
Same here! The BM is just pure evil, kicked DH out after 20 years of hell and then came out of the closet 2 months after he was gone. Smart thinking! It's like saying, Yes, i am gay but he is still a horrible, horrible husband!
I remember speaking to a therapist about this whole soap opera, early on, when DH and I were just dating. It was beginning to seem enormous to me, the total insanity of it all; i was not sure i could deal with the craziness. I just wanted her to leave him alone, stop her hateful emails and go away.
So I suggested that she needed to develop a strong love interest to help her switch her energies elsewhere. My therapist looked at me and said,
Yes, she needs to find a boyfriend.
I said, Haven't you been paying attention? She is GAY!
He smiled and replied, Well, you would not want her to enjoy it!!!
Hahaha! I will never forget that! And i thought he was such a sweet old guy!
Well, since you brought it
Well, since you brought it up, I will chime in. I wasn't going to add this in here just because to me, it is quite embarrassing, to know my DH was actually ever even associated with this bitch let alone laid down with her, ugh, but what the hell. DH's ex, is a raging lesbian. I am in no way trying to offend anyone, so if you read this and it does, sorry. I have gay friends, love them to death, and most of all, applaud them for their honesty and bravery for coming out and being who they were born to be. Anyway, this one, she is the WORST kind. When she was young, like 19, is when she set her sights on DH. He was in college, so was she, she was completely sexually confused, decided he was the one for her, and his attitude at the time, like a lot of college aged guys, well, why the hell not, she's giving it out, may as well take it, but he in no way wanted an actual relationship with her. She became obsessed, followed him everywhere, got a job at the same place he worked, went to all the same parties, just lulu all the way, my DH, being a dumbass, slept with her once again after a drunken night of partying. This is how he got his son (so she says, I have doubts myself on the paternity) Anyway, she wanted him so badly, and with a kid on the way and an overbearing mother DH married her. Little did he know, that deep down inside, she was as gay as Ellen DeGeneres. She had multiple affairs with women while still pregnant!! He found out (he worked graveyard shift at the time, so convenient for a lying sneaking whore no matter who she is whoring around with.) She told DH the truth, they did not even have a marriage to speak of. He slept on the couch and before SS ws 6 months old he packed his shit and said to hell with her. She really freaked then because she was afraid he would spill the beans. He did, but she counter attacked him and told her family he was just lying to cover up that he had been cheating on her (not true) She then kept up the sham of the heartsick jilted wife and mother of his child for all to see. The FIRST night I met her, before he EVER told me the truth, on the way home, I looked at DH and just point blank asked him, "Is she a lesbian?" he got embarrassed and tried to say no, but I knew, I told him I could tell by looking at her, she is one of them that tries to hide it but I saw thru it. He told me the truth. She knows I know and it used to drive her nuts, that is when I still allowed her in my life. The worst part is, she has duped another unsuspecting soul. She just recently got pregnant by and married another man, someone a lot older, someone that works on the road 9 months out of the year (she will really be able to keep a girlfriend with this set up), someone that makes a Shit ton of money for her to burn thru, and someone that is clueless as to what she really is. SICK. not her sexuality, her decision to lie and hide and suck other people into her mess and reproduce and add more people into her web of lies.