How do you tell your husband about their children's behavior without sounding harsh? My DH has a 14 yr old daughter who doesn't listen when he's not around. Every time Im alone taking care of her, she's a huge problem when it comes to doing what I say. He talks to her about it even scolding her but nothing helps. She acts like an angel when he's around but when we're alone, she's a complete butthead (sorry). I'm cool with his sons (they're 13 & 16) but his daughter & I constantly bump heads. How would you tell your husband in a less condescending manner his daughter is a problem?