Nearly 40 and stupid
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Family of 5, 2 bio kids, 1 skid me and the man and I think I have just had a positive pregnancy test. Not planned at all, although I’ve not been brilliant with contraception - stupid!!!
I have no idea what to do, one part of me is saying no way, part of me it’s saying it’s only one more. Then there is this niggling thought that another child will stop the only child syndrome and spilt behaviour of skid. Surely that should not be a consideration, why am I even thinking this?
Feel so daft for getting myself into this situation
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I was nearly 40 when I got
I was nearly 40 when I got pregnant with my youngest; complete surprise as I had my tubes tied 20 years before! I never imagined I would have another.
The pregnancy was easy, no issues. He's nearly 2.5 now and I am so very happy to have him in my life, wouldn't change it for anything!
Honestly, I kind-of think I am enjoying it more in the sense I know I have to because I have experienced how fast time flies.
So I've been exactly there
I have three bios, all girls. He had two bios, both girls. At the five year mark when I was 39 and he 49 we had an unexpected pregnancy. I have a heart condition and my cardiologist and lady doctor were concerned about clots and kept changing my script every month. I was still on birth control but it was a constantly changing prescription going to lower and lower levels of the hormone. They both thought I was probably not fertile anyway and I already had problems with ovarian cysts and getting pregnant but surprise, surprise I got pregnant at 39 unexpectedly. My SO was very, very ugly about it and we had broken up when I announced my pregnancy to him because he said he didn't want to be a father again. He had been living with me for 5 years at the point. He said his kids wouldn't like her. His ex wife cried and cried and cried and cried some more. It was horribly, horribly stressful.
Anyway, today she is four. https://imgur.com/a/xF1YZql and She is the apple of everyone's eye. My three kids adore her. Her father adores her. Of course I do. She is a firecracker, that's for sure. Even the stepkids kinda like her. No one can imagine this world without her in it because she has completely wrapped us all up in her love and cute personality.
Her dad always apologizes for the way he treated me and for asking me to terminate my pregnancy and starts to cry and tear up when he thinks about his behavior back in those days. I'm not saying your SO is being an A$$ but DD's dad definitely was one. He wasn't really allowed to be an active parent with the steps. BM is high conflict and has borderline personality disorder. And his kids have tons of issues because of the way BM parents. But its completely different because I'm not crazy and I'm a good mom and he's actually surprised me by how much he loves being a dad and parenting her. He plays barbies with her and does pillow forts and makes her do her prek homework and braids her hair. And because of that, they are tight and have a great relationship.
I had a very easy wonderful birth were at 39 btw. I had no complications or problems.
So Congratulations!!
I had my one and only child
I had my one and only child just months before turning 35. It's very weird to me that others are done raising kids a mere five years older than that!