Not sure how long the tunnel is, but I DO see the light!

This is a really long story and I'll try to explain without confusing anyone. BF's BD8 has a bday Monday, but BM is Satan and won't let her kids invite my kids to their parties. BF has his kids this weekend and planned to do a party with his 3 and my 2. I gave him warning over a week ago that my kids might be with their dad. We got "off" because of the kids' activities on weekends and this is the first weekend they could go with their dad in a while. More importantly, *I* needed them to go because I am about to kill one of them, maybe both.

So I finally found out today that my exh wants to pick my 2 up after ball Saturday, and will have them until Monday sometime. I told my BF this and he got really upset. He thought my exh should drive back and forth (40 mins each way), and we should rearrange what works best for US so that his daughter didn't have to be disappointed! After arguing for a while, I finally asked him what he was so upset about. It took a while, but he finally realized that HIS kids are not everyone's priority! And that she would survive getting disappointed, just like my kids do. He wasn't upset that my kids wouldn't be there, he was upset because he envisioned the look on his daughter's face when she realized that my daughter wouldn't be there. I asked, "What do you think she'll do? Refuse to celebrate her birthday and pout all weekend? No, she'll get over it, just like everyone else has to do when they are disappointed."

So if your skids are the most important people on the planet to their Guilty Daddy... they CAN get it. Sometimes. But you gotta be patient... And yes, I know, I will go through this same thing over and over until the kids are gone. Lord, help me!