I’m losing my mind!! I need Advice on Disrespectful rude Step brat
Step brat comes over EOW and two days a week. He’s the most Disrespectful Mouthy brat by the end of the weekend I’m ready to kill him. SS feels it’s ok to tell me what I can and can’t do. I ran to anwser the phone today and he VERY rudely point out there is no running in the house BUT when I tell him to stop racing through the house with the dog because my expensive China is Rattling he tells me NO and does it more just to piss me off. He jumps into Conversations that have nothing to do with him just to be rude and bratty. I was talking to DH about where I was going to leave my shoes. SS overheard DH telling me that may not be a good spot so he came RUNNING into the room to tell me Rudely NOT to put my shoes there. I gave DH a dirty look which DH knows means do something about your brat. DH told SS to stay out of this and that just made it SS worse. If DH pushes SS to mind his own Business SS will start swearing and has been known to hit DH or break things. Yes he’s a total Psycho! The kid has been in therapy for years and I only see him getting worse. SS is only in 6th grade.
Yes I know it’s 100 percent DH fault for allow this monster to behave like this. We have had many fights over this.
I do have hobbies/friends BUT I can’t be gone the whole weekend. Besides spending the Entire weekend in a drunken stupor how would you handle this? He has no friends(no surprise there) so he’s ALWAYS around the house. Plus the only time he ever goes to his room is to sleep otherwise he’s hanging around daddy being as Annoying as possible.
If I had a stepkid that bad,
If I had a stepkid that bad, and DH wouldn't parent him, I'd rent a small apartment to use when he's there. Or just invest in your own home and live there on the days skid is there. EOWE and 2 days a week is basically 50/50, unless the two days are only for a few hours.
Not ideal and maybe unaffordable for some, but the alternatives would be divorce, or DH cuts down his parenting time. The kid is 11 or 12, there is a lot more misery ahead.
I couldn't deal with that
I couldn't deal with that behavior regularly.
Your husband is a pathetic
Your husband is a pathetic POS just like his son. But where is your voice? Tell the effing brat where to go and what to shove up his rear. Nothing wrong with telling the worthless crotch dropping to STFU.
I wish I had the money to rent my own place
We own a house in A VERY Expensive part of town so DH can live in the same school district as the brat. That being said our taxes/Mortgage is super expensive. All my money goes to paying half. DH has so many great Qualities but I do regret Marrying him because of SS. Unfortunately I have zero family support with being an only child and both parents passed away three years ago in a car accident I have few people I can Confide in. I just keep hoping Step brat will get some friends and not be hanging around so much
Well, that means he can't
Well, that means he can't live there without you - so make sure you use that leverage to get him to parent more effectively. Or take matters into your own hands, and maybe the kid won't want to come over anymore.
You are sinking ALL of your
You are sinking ALL of your money in this place just so precious can go to school there? Well, that's one way of making sure y ou don't leave... What's wrong with public transport? Is he somehow intellectually inhibited and can't work it out?
I'm sorry, I'd have lost all respect for my dh if he was like yours. Why don't you try delivering the medecine? It's your home too and you don't have to stand for anytrhing you don't want to. Next time the brat threatens to leave, YOU go and open the door and smile as you say "off you trot, then".
Unfortunately it doesn’t get better
In fact, as they get older and age out, in my experience, stepkids only get much, much worse.
Time to knock some sense into your husband to start properly disciplining the nasty brat.
No friends? No surprises there.
You have a DH problem. Why do
You have a DH problem. Why do you have to live in an expensive area just because that’s where skid goes to school? If you wouldn’t be living there if skis didn’t exist, then you absolutely shouldn’t be paying half. You shouldn’t really be paying half anyways considering DH has to house his kid and you only need to house yourself.
The fact that you’re living in an area that’s put you both in financial stretch all for a skid’s happiness is telling enough about how your DH here is a major part of this psycho kids problems.
Honestly, I wouldn’t be able to put up with this. You need to start flexing your wife muscles & even things out accordingly. Disengage completely, don’t be afraid to put the kid in his place every time he disrespects you directly (no parent has the right to tell someone not to stand up to their kid when they’re being a total ahole. You are not a punching bag). If things still don’t improve, maybe look at living separately or leaving altogether. Things aren’t going to magically get better all on their own.
Have you had private chats
Have you had private chats with your DH about his SD, your feelings etc?
Echoing a comment from earlier, you can always chat and get comforton here (I have a rude, disrespectful SD15 who I’m trying to rectify a better lifestyle with in my house).
Yes many times. DH knows his kid is a brat
But tells me since BM let’s SS get away with murder it would be hard to make SS respect our rules. There maybe SOME truth to this but the real reason DH is like this is BM has control of DH’s balls and SS is a manipulating brat. If DH tells SS something he does not like or try’s and punish SS for something SS flips out and starts screaming “well I won’t come over anymore”. SS has done this enough to know this will make DH back right down. ONCE I wish DH would say “there’s the door goodbye”. SS would flip right out BUT Guarantee he would not leave. SS is no fool he knows he’s got it made here but knows which Buttons to push with DH to get his way
Nothing a belt to this kids
Nothing a belt to this kids bare ass won't fix. Daddy needs to man up and light this kids ass up. There is nothing like stinging butt cheeks to reconnect a lost connection between a kid's brain and acceptable behavior.