How do I tell husband about SD10 little wife syndrome?!
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After discussions on here is appears by SD10 has developed little wife syndrome but how do i explain this to my husband? He already thinks I have a vendetta against her. I know he won't take it well
Please help ????
He probably won't be very
He probably won't be very receptive if it comes from you. Is there anybody else who is around enough to notice and bring it to his attention?
Or maybe you can find an article about it to show him so he can see any similarities for himself.
I don't know, I was lucky and didn't have this problem with SD. It does seem a lot of men love the attention and don't seem to see the problem with it.
I was thinking of copy some
I was thinking of copy some Internet content for him to read.
I have said that a few people have noticed she's not including me in certain things and he says they r too busy and trying to stir things up.
Eg Facebook status - can't wait for my daddy to take me horse riding! It can't wait to see my dad at my presentation tonight when I get loads of trophies. She knows I'm going with them.
I might speak to my in laws as they seem to be quiet understanding from both sides ??
It is a very hard subject, I
It is a very hard subject, I had to have several talks to SO whose now nearly 8 year old was an extreme mini -wife. And he supported her with that for a while until he realised he can't have both , a mini-wife and a relationship with me left with no emotional space when she was around.I was lucky that he put her step by step into her place , but it is still hard work at times since I passed the point where I could find the whole thing so annoying.Although he is much better now, I still find it hard to see her as likable.
Whenever she arrived I wanted to run since it felt like a second wife had arrived to take over with full on adult status.
I admit I still want to run at times she is here, although she is mre treated like a kid now.
Thanks god she is mostly better now, too, so hopefully I will learn to trust that he is not allowing that anymore.She was such a mini-wife that she didn't even let us sleep through even one night at the beginning, constantly whinging like a baby and trying to drag Daddddddaaaa out of our bedroom- and sadly succeeded a lot.Completely sucked and typical single child spoiled behaviour.I tell you honestly, I wouldn't go through anything like that again and I am just grateful that SO grew some balls and changed things to give us as a couple and a family a chance.
You may want to read step monster and slowly educate yourself about what is normal and what not in step families to give you something to say when you talk to him.Maybe say one thing at the time instead of pulling the big "mini wife" card straight away- men who spoil their daughters can be very defensive and justify their behaviour.But on the other hand you should not bottle it up either- if he takes your rs important he will listen.
Sorry, i may have missed a
Sorry, i may have missed a few points.
See my first post - SD10 REJECTING ME AFTER 8 YEARS!
These facebook status are not the only thing that goes on. It was other users who suggested she has this.
She gets jelous if we are being affectinate together, she will come and join the cuddle or push her way in the middle and say dont leave me out. She lounges over her dad all the time.
She is very sneeky in her ways. most other family members would see her as a sweet little darling and she does make out she is innocent in everything. maybe i am just picking at these things but when other family members start to notice from my side and DH side then there must be something up!
I want to start thinking about children of my own but theres no way why this is going on and im not getting any younger.
I am far more concerned that
I am far more concerned that she's 10 yrs old and has a FB account than what she posted.
Rather than jump straight to "you treat your daughter like a mini wife", I would gently bring up a few behaviors that bother you the most. Like just say, Dh, I feel very slighted when you allow her to push us apart when we sit next to each other on the couch. Can you please correct her when she does that, I find it to be rude.
If any of this works let me
If any of this works let me know!!! My DH just says I can't tell my little baby to get way from me!! But it's ok for me to get away!!
If any of this works let me
If any of this works let me know!!! My DH just says I can't tell my little baby to get way from me!! But it's ok for me to get away!!
Thanks for all your advice. i
Thanks for all your advice.
i reconsigse that we need to talk about these between ourselves first but its so much harder then it sounds.
as for the FB account - BM says she can have it so she has it! BM also doesnt think to phone us when she has been to the walk in centre for an emergency! (last night)
This is one of the annoying little things she does! Comes over asks DAD to go on the ipad coz she knows i dont let the kids use it. He says Yes, she logs my facebook out and puts her own one in everytime. I have tried hiding the ipad, changing the passcode and she still gets her way round it!
i FEEL like i am at my wits end with it but just dont know if i got the inner ability to SAY exactly what i think.