Going in public places with ss5 and getting stared at?
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Everytime we go out with ss5, he will literally "mold" himself to his dad. (yes, I know he is 5.)
Still, it looks really strange as I can tell by the looks other people give (me) of course like I am some no-good REAL mom of ss5 who is not willing to watch HER son...
Not to mention, because of ss5's age, most others THINK I am his real mom. It can get a bit odd and make me feel "strange."
Walking around anywhere, mind you, ss5 melts himself to his daddy while MWC looks like some retard who doesn't "watch" her own kid....It looks just plain weird and stupid.
That's why I don't want to go in public with them anymore lately. 
Anyone else? Advice?
Thanks guys!
Bluntly said, f*** those
Bluntly said, f*** those people and what they think. He isn't your son and even if he were, maybe they just assume he's a "Daddy's Boy". Either way, I wouldn't worry or care about what they think.
I agree totally but it
I agree totally but it really loooks kinda lame, ya know?
It looks even odder when my own bs18 (who is 6"5') lol is with us all too. People can't tell who (omg) my partner is( dh or ss18)...I'm serious!
Me: 5'7
DH:5'7 (yeah yeah)
BS18: 6'5
SS5: 3'6
Well, I get looks all the
Well, I get looks all the time when out with SS10 and DD11. SS10 is a different race from me, DD11 is bi-racial so when it's just me, FH and her, everything looks normal. When it's just SS10 and me, I see the looks, the judgment or curiosity for the explanation. Honestly, it doesn't bother me one bit because I am firmly in charge of him when he's out with me so no embarrassing behavior from him.
"Maybe I should just makeup
"Maybe I should just makeup business cards with BM's info on them. I could hand them out and tell people to contact her with their comments and concerns about SS. It seems everyone has an opinion of strangers' lives now."
LOL!
How about a sticker you put
How about a sticker you put on shirt, like those signs of "How's my driving---call ..." Instead, "How's my SS behaviour/attitude/etc...? If an issue, please contact BM at ...." Man, I should look up a T-shirt like that to give to SD16. I can just see all the crazy calls BM would get.
LOL...
LOL...
LMAO I just completely
LMAO
I just completely cracked up! Exactly! It's like you "knew" exactly what I go through/ feel during these things!
Okay, I need to just "zone out." Got it! (oh yeah, the BC's with bm's info too.)
Either take SS5's other
Either take SS5's other hand, or just take your DH's other hand. Or, if neither option sounds appealing, like bioandstep said, f-ck those people.
Honestly, I don't want the
Honestly, I don't want the hand of ss5 because he can't even wipe yet properly. Why would I want to hold on to that?
As far as dh...if he tried to hold my hand, ss5 will melt to dh even more, so I stay at a distance. Whatever, you know?
SS10 STILL has to be
SS10 STILL has to be reminded to wash his hands after going to the bathroom! Who knows if proper wiping is taking place either. I think FH started to let him do alot of things, hygiene wise, on his own before he was really ready to. I'm pretty sure he doesn't shower properly either.
I have found that the "snap
I have found that the "snap and point" solves this problem. When he was younger our Son (my SS) would occassionally try to wedge in between when My wife and I were holding hands in public.
We used to walk with him between us holding hands and swinging him as we walked when was really little. When he was too big for this be appropriate and he was being snarky one or the other of us would just snap our fingers and point at him and he would drop on the other side of one or the other of us and grab a hand.
Just last night on our way home from V-day dinner I opened my wife's car door and SS-17 said "hey Dad, you scalped my job". He was kidding but will ocassonally get snarky about it. In light of this thread it is kind of interesting that he gets a little miffed when I do something that he considers his birth right like opening his Mom's car door.
Not that being a well behaved gentleman is problem behavior. I am proud that my Son (SS) is a well behaved young gentleman.
Best regards,
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)
Good for you Rags, that your
Good for you Rags, that your SS17 is quite the gentleman. SS10 currently opens doors, goes through first, doesn't always hold it open AFTER. Sometimes, he just pushes his way past me. I told FH that he needs to talk to him about these things but who knows when that'll happen...
We have always had people
We have always had people assume that SS-17 and I are genetically related. I have been Dad since he was 15mos old. His Mom and I married before he turned 2yo. People say he looks just like me. Which is entirely not the case. He has many of my mannerisms but we look nothing alike.
When people comment that we look alike we just smile and say "thanks" or "yep".
We don't sweat it.
Best regards,
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)
prayerhelps...yeah yeah Or
prayerhelps...yeah yeah
Or remember the T-shirts that said:
" --------------> I'm with Stupid?"
Actually it should be: "I'm
Actually it should be:
"I'm with Stupid-------------->"
(arrow after the statement)
God, I am laughing out
God, I am laughing out loud!!!! I am so glad I found this site. I used to thank god that when sd was causing a scene in her shrieky voice in public she would always refer to me by my given name. I would console myself with the fact that hopefully people picked up on that and did not think she was mine! Or when she would stand in the middle of the aisle at the grocery picking her nose... Or the time in the parking lot she stopped behind a car in an attempt to scrape a piece of melted candy off the asphalt.