Foiled again BM!!!!
Further to my post yesterday about how annoyed I was that after all the ridiculous amount of time we've had to spend with BM lately, that she somehow got DH's cell phone # and called it yesterday to ask DH for directions to the hospital to see the new SGS because she 'didn't want to get lost'
I was annoyed to no end, but figured since she went to see SD/SGS yesterday evening at least this evening when DH & I were there we wouldn't have to put up with her
DH had mentioned to FIL yesterday that we would be going this evening, late, after work
I had a funny feeling BM might pull something, so when DH was pressuring me a bit to go as soon after work as possible today I thought that might be a good idea just in case, in case BM pulled the same crap as last time and made sure to be there the same time as us
So DH & I go and we are visiting with SD/SGS and all is great and SD tells me that we are first to see the new baby. I'm all confused and say but BM called DH yesterday to get directions on her way to the hospital, she wasn't here yesterday?
SD says no, we are the first to see the baby AND that BM was coming this evening, should be there soon. Grrrrr!!!
I seriously could not believe that she would pull this crap!
Sure enough, just as DH & I are leaving who shows up by BM AND even more unbelievable, she is with DH's sister and FIL
Even DH was like WTF?
BM is starting to push it with me, but really happy we tricked her at her own stupid game, hopefully I don't have to see or hear from her again until YSD's shower in over two months!!
I don't understand why your
I don't understand why your DH didn't tell her to look up the directions. in today's age it's really not necessary to "give directions". Until your dh quits enabling her, she's going to keep it up. oh and he needs to STOP telling FIL everything.
Your DH needs to have a chat
Your DH needs to have a chat with his family and also his daughters, and if they don't start respecting his wishes to not be around BM for all of these "family" things, he needs to stop going. That's the only thing that will show them that he is serious.
Obviously, nobody can control who goes to the hospital when, but DH's sister and FIL showing up with BM was no coincidence.
Yes Sally I do believe BM is
Yes Sally I do believe BM is still tagging after DH, or trying to tick me off, or both
And no point asking DH's sister to stop encouraging BM, DH's sister does it deliberately, and FIL does whatever DH's sister tells him to do
I do plan to have my own shower for YSD though...talked it through ahead of time with DH and with YSD (so I don't step on any toes) but she's a good one and we're close, both she and DH assured me it was a good idea. So the shower will be for my family, and my & DH's friends, that won't necessarily be at the wedding but would like to get together with YSD and her fiance to celebrate anyway
And no, I've changed my mind about inviting BM & her SO (originally) they will not be invited!
Yes Cocoa, right on both
Yes Cocoa, right on both points!