The dormant BM volcano blew yesterday!
I just said in a post the other day that our BM is like a dormant volcano, you never know when she is going to blow... well we should have known that it has been quiet for far to long and yesterday, she blew!
Of course less than a week before school is to start, she texts hubby asking him if he can get school clothes for SS11. Hubby said no. Well that was not the answer she wanted to hear so she starts blowing up his phone with her stupid text messages. Starts spewing about how he has no idea how much it costs to raise a child, that the child support he gives her does not cover everything, how she took SS on a trip to Great Adventure blah blah blah. He text her back and told her that he would nominate her for mother of the year. (he he)
A couple of hours later she calls and starts in on how SS will just have to go without because she can't pull the $ out of her ass, hubby is a terrible father, an evil person, blah blah blah.
What I don't get is why whack job has to turn it into some type of contest.. like "Oh I took him to Great Adventure and Washington DC this summer." OK??? Well we bought him a $300.00 ski pass, got him snowboarding lessons, all the equipment, took him numerous times, took him to a concert etc. etc. but of course she forgets about all of that... cause after all we can't possibly compete with "mother of the year"! Then when that didn't work she had to get personal, try to make hubby feel like a bad father, bad person and guilt him into doing what she wants. I AM SO PROUD OF HUBBY FOR STICKING TO HIS GUNS AND TELLING HER TO GO F*CK HERSELF.
I mean really, it's a given that every September school is going to start and SS is going to need school clothes so how difficult is it to set aside 20 bucks a week or something over the summer so you have $... or (Gawd forbid!!) maybe NOT buy YOURSELF new clothes, skip a movie or two, a dinner out or two.. that's what it really all boils down to, she feels like having to buy SS school clothes is going to cut into her clothing, dinner, movie, coffee money so she'll just ask hubby for it because after all she is ENTITLED... ugh!
Can you DH call my DH and
Can you DH call my DH and tell him how it's possible to tell BM to go f**k herself and that he can, indeed, say "no" when circumstances call for it?!?!?!?
I know, I never thought I'd
I know, I never thought I'd see the day! But I guess there IS hope!
The telling remark was that
The telling remark was that CS "doesn't cover everything." Uh, no, you are supposed to contribute, BM!
I have to agree with this.
I have to agree with this. BM's sure don't get that they have to put in their share!
Too bad the BMs we have to
Too bad the BMs we have to deal with are whackjobs.
I didn't start getting CS for my BS until he was almost 10. I got the minimum amount of CS for my son and have never once asked for that to be increased, even when I knew his BD got a great paying job.
Now that BS is no longer a minor, BD is upset that he still has so much back support to pay. I said if you were like my DH, your CS would have been done the day the kids turn 18! It's not my fault or DS's fault that you ran from your obligations for so many years.
Other than that, I have not talked to BD and surely have NEVER called him begging for more than I already got. I would have willingly let him visit our son, had he wanted to but he never even so much as sent a b-day or X-mas card in all those years to my son.
I say, if anyone has a right to be a psycho BM, it is me - but I am not. So why do I have to deal with skids crazy witch?? Where is Karma when I need it?!?!?
oh they'll get their karma
oh they'll get their karma one day just wait.. I have complete faith in karma, that they'll get exactly what they give, and trust me one day the skids and the bios will figure out that whatever you did was good for them. My sisters and I did. We all know if our mom was the cp we would've turned out way different, and we are all grateful that our dad was the one that raised us. Not that we don't love our mom, she just has no boundries and every child needs boundries.
God does that make me sound old.. I'm not ready to be an adult yet..lol
My husbands kids lived with
My husbands kids lived with bm's mother-the grandmother. BM never contributed anything and i never did understand why she thought she didn't have too. They were her kids also. My hubby paid cs, vacations, cars and clothes and on and on. Thank god they are all grown now. I didn't feel bad about him having to pay because he paid it to the grandmother. Sad
But on the other hand, it was tough providing for 2 kids with the child support i received along with my salary. Groceries, money for school, clothes, cars and insurance and on and was very expensive. I didn't feel bad at all about calling my ex husband telling him when they needed something and he willingly helped. But he also knew I took very care of the kids and probably contributed more than he did. But he always had a wife or girlfriend that would complain and bitch everytime they would need something -like who else was supposed to support them bsides their parents. Needless to say, those that bitched about him taking care of his own kids didn't last too long.