It's disgusting!!! Eating and going to sleep without brushing your teeth is disgusting. But the horrible eating habits he is instilling in his daughter is far worse. I'm sorry but that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Let me guess he does it because it's what your SD "wants" like she can make the decision about her well being. Seriously I wouldn't put it past my SO to do something stupid like this.

Ask your DH if he agree with obesity in children?
ask him what he thinks of over-weight children being bullied in school and if he thinks it right?
Who's the blame for obesity in children?
Then ask him would you like to put your daughter through that?
Does he want his daughter to have low self esteem because she's over weight?
because that is what is going to happen if he's not careful, my guess is if it wasn't for you buying healthy good food, she could have been put through that already.
It may be a bag of chips now but it will lead to more and soon it will be comfort eating and before he knows it she'll be put through all the above and it will be his fault!
Loving your child does not mean giving in to what they want, it sometimes means saying NO and doing what right, a bag of chips EVERYNIGHT is NOT right or fair on the daughter.

Good luck!

Eating right before going to bed is not a good habit to get into.

Eating and not brushing your teeth before bed is not only nasty, but bad for her oral health, and not a good habit to get into.

She is going to bed to sleep and that's what she should do. Plus, eating IN bed is just gross.

He is teaching her really bad habits at a very young age.

Most people would probably say, "not your kid, not your problem". I personally would not let it go but that's just me.

And lets not forget all those crumbs... will lead to bugs.

-.-

wat.

(really can't think of anything else to say.)

his kid, his problem. just make sure he knows when she becomes over-weight and her teeth rots out, not one cent of your money is going to go towards paying for it. disengage. allow him to non-parent as he sees fit, but make sure you protect yourself. and he better have the money to cover an exterminator.

Having her take the food into her bed and eat it right before sleeping - yes, it's gross and it should stop. Not for you or your husband, but for your SD.

As for eating chips every day - I'm gonna have to disagree with you and say it's fine.
My step daughters have been eating chips every day since a very young age, they still do, and they look good, have nice figures, their health is fine just as their teeth.
I eat flips every day, I'm also looking and feeling pretty good.

>>>wait til you have a kid & see what you do"<<<

I have a kid. She is not allowed to have food in her room. DH and I don't eat in our room. Tell your DH it's not the end of the universe, lol.

"We" (parenthesis will be explained in due course!) have the no food in the bedrooms rule...

It is enforced with my kids.

SD and SS not so much. SS doesn't really bring a lot of food into the house or sneak stuff out of the pantry, but if he does say get a lolly bag at a party, or his easter eggs he will have them in his room and leave an almighty mess - bits of choc everywhere, lolly wrappers etc.

SD13 is the problem. She is obese. We have snack foods, we have dessert sometimes, we have LOTS of fruit. We eat reasonably healthy meals with the odd junk night thrown in.

I don't have chips in the house unless it's for a particular reason - sometimes we decide to have a movie night, where we all snuggle down and watch a few movies - I get microwave popcorn and a few bags of chips/lollies. (between 4 kids and 2 adults it's not so much LOL) I don't have things like Oven fries just in the freezer for snacks... SOMETIMES I will buy them for junk night dinner. Soft drink is for special occasions as is cordial or juice. We drink water... (gosh it sounds like prison LOL)

OH and BM have always just let the kids eat what they want when they want. You want to cook up some fries an hour before dinner sd? NO worries, go right ahead. Well, not in my house baby. No. OH and I discussed this early on, he was whinging about how there was nothing for the kids to snack on, how they shouldn't have to ask, his aren't used to having to ASK FOR FOOD!!! I said, they get three healthy meals a day, there are snacks available - the fruit bowl is always full, and there are other snacks but they DO have to ask, because letting them have a handful of biscuits 10 minutes before dinner means they don't eat the healthy dinner. I said to compromise I will get a big container and fill it with reasonable snack foods, and unless it's within an hour of lunch or dinner time they can all have 2 a day. (as well as fruit) He said no, actually it's probably better not to have all the junk they are used to in the house and my way works - he'd rather they ask. (I think he knows if sd had access she'd have more than 2 a day, she'd scoff the lot)

So now BM sends over boxes of crackers and bags of lollies in sd's case, every time she comes. 2 boxes of crackers a weekend and 2 large bags of lollies (I know because I see the rubbish left laying around sd's room when she leaves) Cracker crumbs everywhere, and rubbish.

And they wonder why the kid is obese?

And no-one will do anything about it. I say when she gets here we take them off her and tell her she can take them back to BM's when she leaves, he won't do that.

I have tried the "bugs" card, that didn't work. He says "I will tell her to be more careful and throw away the rubbish"....