"Criticizing" Parenting
Okay, so yesterday I gave my bf a hard time about watching so many movies with his kids that he barely has time with (his words). I said that he needed to spend time with the kids individually. He is flippin out today. He is responding irrationally and emotionally about how I must think I'm perfect, never have problems with my kids, etc. His arguments are just childish and plain stupid.
I'm good enough to stand up in court about what a great father he is, but not good enough to give my opinion on what I see? We have been together for almost a year and a half, it's not like I just met him on the playground and criticized something he did with his kid!
I think he's defensive because I have a point. I said, "You're not doing enough," when he wants it to be enough. Or is it NEVER okay to point anything out when it comes to SO's kids? Those of you married, does this crap happen to you?
I often think my SD watches
I often think my SD watches too much TV. He's being defensive right now. Though you had the best intensions, you may not have gone about it the best way. When I think SD is watching too much TV I start suggesting other things that we (or they) could be doing and SD jumps on it. Other times when she's asks to watch a movie I'll say (first) "no,you've watched enough TV today/tonight/this weekend." and DH backs me up.
You would think that at this
You would think that at this point, he would know I'm not attacking him and take it well no matter how it comes out. But instead, he reads into what I'm saying and hears something completely different. I mean, I have the texts where I said something and his response is just ludicrous, saying, "Oh now your saying xyz..." When I said ABC! He thinks that because he never calls out things about my parenting that I have no right to say anything about his. I'm all for your opinion if you see something I'm missing! It's like he's a child and can't stand hearing something that might be negative about him. I'm thinking he was a coddled child LOL
His son said two weeks ago (according to bf) that he was going to start going out and doing more while they were at our house, rather than go back to my son's room and play on the computers. Bf said this to me like it was my son's fault that his son was bein lazy. I didn't say anything. Guess what he did this weekend? Went right back to my son's room and sat on the computers. I even told them a few times they should go outside and play before the rain came because it was windy and the rain was coming. But nope. And if my daughter were home, his girls woulda been back in her room playing, and bf woulda been hangin out with me or watchin tv or something. yep. quality time!
I'm NOT married but I've been
I'm NOT married but I've been with HIM for 5 years and uhh...I used to complain that he watched WAY too much TV with him and that didn't take MUCH effort - after a nice little war - I won and now he takes them outside all the time to ride bikes, blow bubbles, swims with them, soccer, etc. they even do yard work now lol.- I send them everywhere with him and they even BAKE together...That's SO much more than just SITTING and it allows them to communicate and talk more I think.