So I may be wrong in this tiny tiff but idk y it annoys me so much. A few years ago bm withheld kids in anger she didn't get child support on time (no court order at this point), my husband was Ill and could not work but she still demanded money that idk must of grew on trees. Anyway this eventually lead to child support and child custody court two diff cases as they don't relate. My husband couldn't work for over a year and could not barely take care of himself let alone children so one day a week and every other weekend was agreed upon. A few years later we are still up to our ears in medical bills. He now works full time and recently got a part time job. This part time job will only take up one evening he has as "kid time". He let her know 4 weeks in advance that he can no longer get them on that evening g due to a new job. She says well too bad you figure it out since she has plans. Well of course neither of us are going to just listen to her and just blow off the new job. He said he would come the next morning as that would be the soonest (works late evenings gets home around midnight)... she still insists it's his court ordered time and he needs to figure it out. Clearly this isn't going to happen. The kids are no longer in day care as the kids gma moved in and watches them for free. That support order has not been changed and we cannot afford a lawyer to lower it and besides if we did I'm sure she would come up w something to tack on some huge bill. The kids insurance has changed several times and my husband still pays for that. My point is she doesn't follow court orders to inform them of changes but he had to strictly follow it with his court ordered visitation time? I was wondering if any bms could relate as I don't have children myself. She can mostly be pleasant now a days and we really avoid conflict.