The poster here who mentioned I should back out of participating in holding the shower for YSD that I was sucked in to doing because it no matter what I did it would be something for BM, DH's sister and OSD to pick on - in other words continue with their relational aggression (bullying) towards we, couldn't have been more right!

I should have clued in when DH's sister sent a message earlier this week suggesting we conference call either Saturday or Sunday, and when I confirmed Saturday work work she then responded with "SUNDAY" in other words 'oh you would like Saturday Disillusioned, well it will be SUNDAY instead"

Anyway this morning was the 'conference call' and we were all supposed to call in to OSD's phone. So when I call, after she says hello I say Hi, and there is silence. So I sort of joked with her asking if I was the first one on the line. She says "no, Mom (BM) is on the line"

No response from BM

So, I ignore the rude lack of response from BM and politicly ask how they're doing. Silence

At this point, nothing BM, DH's sister or OSD does really faze me anymore. I was thinking "oh, come ON" Seriously, how immature are you anyway BM?!

You can't be mature enough to respond when someone says hello to you?

Sadly this shocked me though as BM has never treated me that way, but, this last year lots of games have been going on and she has changed apparently.

Very sad, for 17 of the 18 years DH and I have been together BM and I have gotten along with no major problems. The reasons I think this has changed are a whole other post!

Anyway, pathetic that BM claims to try to set OSD straight on her behaviour and teach her to show respect including for me, and yet BM was rude and guess not a surprise that OSD was/is rude too!

Then the queen of rudeness and BS comes on the line, DH's sister. So, conference call underway.

Any questions or comments I had, if addressed at all, were responded to by OSD or DH's sister - I noticed BM was silent. But she sure did make sure to joke with DH's sister, bring up stuff they had done recently in prep for the shower - like check out the facility, etc... - all stuff I had clearly been excluded from and now they all started laughing and doing the remember that, remember this with each other. Obviously they would know that could make me uncomfortable, mostly likely they were loving rubbing that in.

Funnily enough, none of it bothered me. I was strangely detached from it all. I think you get to a point where you expect people will act like assholes and you are not only not surprised when they do, but you realize you are so bored with it all you don't even care

The only good in it all is DH literally stopped everything he was doing when he realized I was off the call with them and asked how it went - I told him exactly how it went - not that it surprised him. He basically said they ware assholes, glad I took the high road and showed some class, and let's worry about the things in life that actually matter.

Good response DH!