Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it will persist until your DH puts a stop to it.

My mom *still* texts/calls my dad on birthdays, their old anniversary, holidays, you name it. He ignores her, but she just won't take the hint. He absolutely hates it, but he won't just tell her, "Hey, stop contacting me. I don't like you; I don't want to have anything to do with you; we have no reason to communicate."

They've been divorced since 1982.

Your DH needs to set some boundaries between hisself and BM.

All you can do is ignore it and ask your DH to have some boundries, even if he doesn't want do email limit it to text messages. This is what we do for things with my SS. Even when there is a issue he will text her most of the time rather than call so everything has been in a written form.

I know it sucks knowing BM still loves him, and dealing with jabs - trust me I deal with it from BM but also a lady DH slept with that is friends with his mother who comes over the house and spouts about how he should have married her, and flirting and saying how handsome he is,which we have limited contact except selet occassions though still not fun to deal with....with BM like I said I can mostly ignore it and it is more text messages than anything unless she calls to talk to SS which then I have to hear her icky voice, and her telling SS how he is handsome like his daddy, and bringing up things they did as a family if SS mentions anything about us leaving the house. We have to have her on speaker do to past things she has said/told SS to say to me that were completely unappropriate.

I would say talk to your DH about limiting phone calls, and stay away from anything BM, I know it can be irritating but the best thing is to be confident in what you and DH have and disengage from the witch

I hear you! BM placed herself where she knew we would be when she knew I was in the picture. There was the constant calls to 'do' stuff for her. When she re married I told DH that she has a husband to do these things for her and he got that. She got into a messy divorce and tried to clean new husband out too but he was a bit more wise than the rest (including DH). For almost nine years this went on and DH just quit answering her calls. BM started PAS big time with the kids,in order to drive me away!? Silly woman!
I dropped the bug in DH's ear that once the SKids came of age there would be absolutely NO reason, whatsoever, for them to have any form of contact. DH and I recently heard that she STILL wants him back, DH said (to SD) that ship sank a long time ago.
DH and I are together pretty much 24/7 and, aside from the occasional disagreement, it works. Everyone says were are a great looking couple, even SD!
I smile a lot, got lots to smile about! THE worst thing is to let BM know that this bothers you, seriously, I made that mistake at first. Apply that to anyone who is 'bothering' you in life and they do finally give up...they move on to another 'target'.

Totally with you on this one! BM calls my fiancé about the most ridiculous things just to get him on the phone for a conversation. Once she texted him at 10pm (after the kids were in bed) to tell him that his son had found a hair on his chest in the shower and she wanted to discuss what to do about that. He's 8yrs old, he does not have chest chest hair yet. We just laughed. She makes a mountain out of EVERY mole hill, regardless. Or she will create some kind of dramatic situation with the kids just so he has no choice but to discuss it with her, only to find out later that it was just a ploy and the kids are fine. They're only 4yrs and 8yrs but he ignores her unless it's a dire emergency now. So ridiculous.

This is straight out of the XW playbook. My own XW did this crap on and off for years. She would call me to tell me she was pregnant, she would call me to tell me that I could stay with her when I was in town and to say we "can even have sex if you wear a condom".

The sick part, we had no children together. She was one who liked to sample every twig and giggle berry combo she could find while we were married then got upset when SHE initiated the divorce because I did not try to stop her. :sick:

The only way this stops is for your DH to put his foot down and quit answereing her calls. Until he does, he facilitates this behavior.

IMHO.

Sincerely,

How old are the skids? My SD is only 5 but my DH rarely talks to BM. One will call the other before pick up/drop off or if SD wants to talk to DH when she is with BM, she will call. Other than that, they don’t talk at all (to my knowledge anyway). When DH and I first got together (and for a while after that, until we put our foot down), BM would call CONSTANTLY, every day like yours. I was sick of seeing her name pop up on DH’s phone when we were watching a movie or talking or eating dinner. It was very intrusive. Finally, DH stopped answering her calls and after a little bit, she stopped calling like that. She realized her little tactic of interrupting our lives wasn’t working. It’s really up to your DH to let her know she can’t be calling every day. Let her know that unless it’s an emergency having to do with skid, there is no reason to call and her calls will not be answered. He has to put his foot down.

Welcome to the club. BM is also still in love with my DH. In fact, she just told him again the other day the only reason she is cordial is because she expects things to work out with them one day. We have been married over three years and they have been seperated for almost 6. The ONLY reason he married her was because he got her pregnant in high school at age 17.