haha. nice. our BM tried to have it written into the CO (which she was attempting to change AGAIN) that I was not allowed to discipline the children in any way.

I'm like "sure, so when your kid's out in the middle of the street or sticking his hand in the oven, I guess I'll give DH a call and hope like hell he can get home in time."

Retard.

I do let DH deal with her 99.9% of the time. I don't want to deal with her and I don't have the emotional control to deal with her nonsense either. I have text her exactly 1 time in four years, and that was because I was watching the kids and had to go back to work soon and she was over an hour late to pick them up.

If you are the one dealing with the kids the majority of the time, I think she's off her rocker to think it's none of your business. It absolutely IS your business if you're going to be taking care of her kid.

In general, I think BM's think of us as free childcare. And I guess I wouldn't be explaining myself to our babysitter either. And maybe if you were getting paid that would actually make sense. :S

Wellllll, I agree with BM on that one, and that's a rarity for me. It is none of your business. Your DH should be the one handling all contact with BM. Your DH should also not be letting her switch up weekends. The world runs a lot smoother when everyone follows the CO.

BM also can't control what DH tells you. BM also can't control who does what with whom at your house.

But, I do think it is her right to either not answer you or to tell you to mind your own business. If our BM texted me and asked me anything about what/why I was doing something (especially if the kids weren't even at my house), I wouldn't text her back (I don't talk to crazy people), but I'd definitely be of the mindset that she should mind her own business.

Even if you are the main caretaker, BM is under absolutely no obligation to communicate with you about anything. Your DH is however.

dispiritedstepmom:

I have been and am still going through the same shit. She tells me it is none of my business... She tells me I am not allowed to be a step mom. She tells the COPS, this is between her and DH...

My husband is a damn Truck Driver.... Oh, let me call him while he is in California to tell him that I have to take the kids to the ER because they were doing something they should not have been doing and broke their arm... OH Wait, let me call him when he is in North Dakota because the children refuse to eat dinner... Really...

Well, the COPS told her this is not her home. She can not refuse visitation when the Dad is not home. And she can not control what happens in our home. It is our responsibility PERIOD! I RUN MY HOUSE! I TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN! I DISCIPLINE THOSE CHILDREN. NOT DADDY! She got a hard lesson from her own damn actions.

The problem she is having is the same as what I am dealing with. She is jealous and insecure and refuses to think of some one else loving and caring for the children. She is the idiot. She is the one that refuses to accept responsibility for her own actions. If she wanted to raise her children then she should never have put her self in a position that does not allow for her to be in control.

Some BM's really p*ss me off. Of course its to do with you. You are caring for her child. Some BM's just need to suck it up and accept it. One word for her...............deluded