Everything about them buggs me. EVERYTHING!

It drives me up the wall most when SD comes over wearing BM's perfume. I told my DH once that it was making me sick, it actually was. He told SD to go wipe some of it off. I could still smell it the rest of the night but thankfully it wasnt so overwelming.

I think that BM puts it on her to remind DH about her.

Its not SD fault her mom is a whore but I can't help but to hate SD and SS simply because they are her kids.

You are not alone. Everything SD15 does bothers me to. And yes there is a history. And yes those stupid glare are fun.

Yes - It didn't used to but when the disrespect started, I started to be bugged by everything she does...

My SD12 was PAS'd by her BM. SD all sorts of things to cause conflict in our home. The DVD Welcome Back Pluto explains so many of these types of behavior due to Parental Alienation.

I also think that SD12 was competeing with me to see who BF would give the female "alfa" award to. I think somewhere in her immature mind she thought she could get BF to undermine my needs and feelings. Sometimes she won the battle but when the war was over...BF sent her back to BM, so BM could live with the creation she created

Couldn't have said it better myself hbell0428!

I don't have kids. This is neither good nor bad.

I have tried my best to like her. She started living with us at 12, when her mother (for whatever reason) decided it was inconvenient to live with her (new boyfriend etc).

I am lucky in that BM is nowhere near as psycho as others have to deal with, however, I know that what she says goes DH folds when push comes to shove. Blahh!

Now she is 15, is doing well at school, and I can't stand to be in the same room as her.

Call me selfish, maybe I am. On the other hand, I cook, clean, garden and wash to provide this person with a stable home - I get no thanks from her mother, no thanks from her and only thanks because her father feels guilty.

The minute there is behaviour I think needs addressing DH goes into defense mode of SD. Simple things, like putting dirty clothes in the laundry rather than under her bed, suggesting that we help her cook a simple meal (so that she learns to cook) I am in the wrong and he makes excuses. Guilty dad does it again.

My long term [plan is that she will become a capable young adult and LEAVE. Harsh? Maybe. Truth? Precisely.

YES. And I feel guilty for saying this, BUT for instance: my SD was sick yesterday. DH was totally babying her..they were watching a movie on the couch and she was laying on him and he was rubbing her back and talking to her with a soft voice. And she was totally milking it. Acting as though she felt 100 times worse than she probably did. I wasn't bothered at first but after a while it just slowly gets to me and makes me sick. Must be nice to be treated that way when you're sick. I know I sure don't get special treatment! Usually I get more of the "brush it off" kind of reaction. Yes I get she is a kid, but still...it's a little over the top at times!

I cannot stand it when FDH's 12 year old son hangs on and lays on his dad. It grosses me out. They are more affectionate than me and FDH. EWWWWW.

Just a little vent added on here!

I think Milosmom put it this way:

Being a stepmom to ungrateful brats and living with a guilty daddy is like working and working on a job without ever getting paid. You expect to be paid somehow, someway but it never happens. It's just expected that you show up for work day after day but never see a payday.

That hanging on daddykins is making a statement. I find that children are as territorial as a mother cat. Subconsciously "claiming" daddykins as their own in front of you. Methinks that if SM leaves for the day and has a camera running, that skids won't hang on daddykins nearly as much as they do when SM is there (for her "benefit")

It also is ramped up if there's a PASinator BM behind the scenes inducing loyalty conflicts and ramping up the competition. . ."Daddy doesn't love you anymore; he loves that whore instead." etc. etc.