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Submitted by Zimka on Tue, 06/09/2009 - 9:29am

My SO best friends, a christian couple that he see's as family, tonight he went to see them as he felt that there was a little tension towards me. The women in this couple has never made an effort to get to know me as she is scared to just in case we break up (her exact words).... WTF????? We have been going out 16months and friends for a year before that. She has been told that I am only with my SO to get a child the easy way (since when has step parenting been the easy way????) and that the only reason my SO other want increased access is because I want a child......

Access agreement BF3 wants to put to BM ( What do you think?)

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Submitted by Zimka on Thu, 06/04/2009 - 12:27am

Have we missed anything??????

Proposed Access
From 20 June till SS second birthday
Saturday 20 June 2009 – Saturday 11 July 2009
4pm Saturday till 12pm Sunday, weekly
Saturday 18 July 2009 – Saturday 15 August
4pm Saturday till 2pm Sunday, weekly
Saturday 22nd August 2009 - till Birthday
4pm Saturday till 4pm Sunday, weekly

ARGH What did I personally do to deserve this......

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Submitted by Zimka on Sun, 05/31/2009 - 10:28pm

:? . BM's flatmate just commented to BM's blog and started saying that because she has been BM's flatmate for the last 5 months that she knows knows both sides of BM's story...... Well she see BF3 for 10 minutes pick up and drop of once a week she can comment on BF3 and what type of parents we are....... As we have not commented to bm's blog we are wondering why all of a sudden we are get slammed by someone who has nothing to do with us personally....... I love BF3 but I so want to beat the f#@k out of these people.... ARGH.....

Does any one know how blog analytics work????

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Submitted by Zimka on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 5:25pm

BM has a blog that she writes..... Awhile back she gave me the link so every now and again I read it. Yesterday she posted an entry that I read then last night she rung up and ask what I was doing still reading her blog..... Although I denied it she said well I am the only one in our town that knows she has a blog so I must be me....... My question is how much info can you get from analytics. Also can I block the infomation she may recieve????

BF3 and his counselling RE: increased access to SS(Longish)

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Submitted by Zimka on Thu, 05/28/2009 - 12:03am

Well what an interesting adventure this has been......
Session one and two are individual sessions at separate times session three and four BM and BF3 together.
Due to BF3 having his tonsils out 5 days before his first session he asked if I could attend which was sweet but the rest BM has asked that I not be allowed to attend. Apparently because this has nothing to do with me.......

I wish BM was reasonable...........................

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Submitted by Zimka on Tue, 05/12/2009 - 2:06am

Just before BF3 and I advised BM we wanted to go to court to sort visitation out, BM needed SS looked after for two hours wednesday evenings and had ask if BF3 and I could do it we said of course we would love to...... cause we are not playing HER ball game by going to court she has decided that she will find any excuse so we don't get to see SS.

Here in New Zealand

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Submitted by Zimka on Sat, 05/09/2009 - 8:17pm

It is already mothers day so I would like to wish all you a happy step mothers day, Cause we do just as much if not more for our skids than their own BMs, sometimes with little or no acknowledgment from skids or BF. SO I acknowledge each and every one of you. Smile This morning BF3 wished me a happy mothers day, it meant the world to me!

Thanks to reading alot of good advice

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Submitted by Zimka on Tue, 04/28/2009 - 8:53pm

to others problems/issues I have discussed with BF3 some healthy rules for our relationship and having SS in our home.
1) BM is not welcome in our home. (neither of us want her here)

2) BM's other two children( niether are BF3's) are welcome with their brother SS This is important to BF3 as he has been the main male role model in the childrens life for the last 7 years), but not everytime ( which is BM's current rule) and when it fits in with what we are doing.

OMG the nerve of BM

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Submitted by Zimka on Sat, 04/25/2009 - 2:34am

BM is going away for a week in September and in her wisdom she has decided the best person to look after all three of her children is BF1 (3 kids 3 different fathers) who has just turned up back in her life in the last 8 months and been completely absent from his daughter for 7years. Where as BF3 has been in all three of BM childrens life since the oldest was 18 months. We (BF3 and I) are not allowed SS 15 months over night during this time but we are allowed to spend time with SS at her place with BF1 and SS siblings.

In New Zealand before you get a parenting order( the rules that govern visitation)

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Submitted by Zimka on Thu, 04/23/2009 - 11:45pm

You have to attend 6 free sessions of counselling with the other bio parent to see if you can work an agreement out without going to court. Today BM recieved the request for counselling and hit the roof..... Phoning both BF and myself at work and she said by doing this we are putting her 3.5 year old at risk, as she has stated to the court re the court battle between her and that kids BF that she has a great relationship with the other two BF one of which is my partner and that we all have very good, open communication (Yeah right).

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