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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 8:15am

MSD class is graduating this Saturday. (I looked it up on the schools website)

There has been no mention to DH about graduation from MSD. I dont even think that DH has thought to ask MSD or is assuming its this weekend. The oldest 2 graduations were in June. So even if DH has thought about it, I am sure he thinks its in a few weeks and he will find out closer to June.

I asked him- anything going on this weekend? He said No. I told him my mom is going to be in town, FYI. He said okay. No mention of graduation for MSD.

Im wondering WHY MSD hasnt metioned it to DH. I really think that she hasnt been in school for awhile. I have had a feeling. DH said he called a few months back and confirmed with the school that she was still enrolled. Not so sure if I believe that he really did that.

And with all the other drama going on with her- no car, moved out of BF's house, working, baby, I would not be surprised at all if she stopped going to school during this time but didnt tell DH and she just assumes that she will get her G.E.D or something.....

ETA- Should I mention it to DH that graduation is this weekend and see what he says?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 8:40am

I think my thing is control too.

I just dont want Daddddyyy thinking oh my little girl she is just so awesome and smart and she graduated from HS with a baby, blah blah blah and see Zero this is why she is so awesome and I cant believe you just dont love her like I do.

(Okay maybe a little over the top, but you get it.)

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 8:52am

Me - I would call the school and see if she is enrolled. My husband would do this. Yours is hoping to stick his head in the sand, unfortunately for you when her world implodes, it will affect your household. I have this with SD and I assure you, I will do whatever I can behind the scenes to affect her life and make sure her stupid mistakes don't affect my life.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 8:59am

I dont even know if they will give me that information over the phone. Or if it has to be a bio parent.

I'm already irked that DH pays BM CS for MSD who doesnt even live with BM and hasnt lived with BM in months (a total of 3 months in the pass 1 1/2 years) and BM doesnt give MSD any of the CS to at least help her out... but if she hasnt even been in school I am going to be even more annoyed.... uuugghhhhhhh

Stupid SDs.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 9:27am

CS stops for MSD on 5/24 Smile This Saturday.

Even though MSD has been 18 since November and hasn't lived with BM and has her own baby CS sees her as a "minor" and a parent has to have "custody" of her until she is 18 AND graduated.

BM has "custody" of MSD. The only way DH would stop paying CS to BM is if he got custody of MSD.

At the time we found all of this out and MSD went back and lived with her BF and his family, DH and I weren't going to fight for custody and then be responsible for her but yet she lives with her BF and his family and has a baby. Plus she is in a different school district then where we lived.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 9:30am

Im a chicken shit about getting caught LOL Im about to send you the info and have you do it for me. I dont know what all they ask for. LOL.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 9:25am

I would just mention to DH that graduation is really close so he may want to find out when it is. Then it is all on him if he checks it out or not.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 9:29am

He texted me about something about 15 mins ago.

So I texted back and said "Is MSD graduating this Saturday?"

*Crickets* no response

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Submitted by SMto2 on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 10:13am

If she doesn't graduate, do you have to keep paying CS so long as she's enrolled in school? That is how it is where we live. Also, my youngest SS is graduating next week, and we received a graduation announcement a couple weeks ago. Seems strange that she would not send out announcements, as even the laziest of teens manage to get those out because it means $$$. I am crossing my fingers for you that she is graduating or that if she has dropped out, you can get CS stopped.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/20/2014 - 10:23am

It does stop once she is 18 and graduated (or if she dropped out of school and is 18.)

So if she graduates on the 24th CS has stopped.

If she has dropped out, I want to see if CS will go back and get that money from BM since she had custody of her and she have known if she wasnt going to school/dropped out.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 05/21/2014 - 7:12am

***Update***

I guess she is graduating but not going to walk because she cant make rehearsal on Friday because she has to work and she has to work on Saturday.....

Possible...she has known about this all year, she could have scheduled her work around both of these events. Knowing her I would think they would be very important to her. But with her new apartment and expenses she may just deciede its more important. Who knows?

I dont have to worry about telling DH I'm not going to a graduation. And as of Saturday, DH no longer has to pay CS on her.