So sick of BM and her getting all this child support but not providing crap
I know this is a common gripe on this board. I really haven't had to deal with it much until lately. I am mostly disengaged and uninvolved but when it comes to money I feel that I have to step in at same point.
I'm already annoyed that BM is collecting CS for MSD18 who doesn't even live with her and hasn't lived with her for more then maybe 5 months for the past 1 1/2 years. MSD lives with her BF and his family and has her own baby. But since MSD is still in HS and the only way to stop CS is to take legal gaurdianship over MSD which at this point wouldnt even work. (different school district, she has a baby, she has much more help with the BF and his family). So it's one of those things that we are stuck on. You would at least think that BM would give MSD some of the CS support money... but of course she doesn't. She's such a greedy bitch. So she is collecting CS on a kid she provides NOTHING for.
Then to add to my annoyance MSD said that BM claimed her and her baby on her taxes. Got back over $8000 and wouldnt give ANY of it to MSD. Even though she claimed HER baby and BM hasn't done ANYTHING to support that baby. MSD works so she should have claimed her own kid, ya know the one that she has been supporting while living with BF and his family. Damn even BF and his family could have claimed the baby.
THEN MSD informs us that her mom had dropped her off her insurance. So DH is paying extra CS to offset the insurance that BM carries for YSD and MSD. So again the bitch is collecting money for something she isn't even providing. Ugh I am so sick of it.
I sent an email to child support asking that BM provide proof that she is carrying insurance for MSD. I really hope that she gets busted and DH can at least get back something.
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Having her own child doesn't
Having her own child doesn't emancipate her? Wow.
Not as long as she is in HS.
Not as long as she is in HS. Thankfully she graduates in May.
Nope, that's why I am so glad
Nope, that's why I am so glad my SD got married after she got pregnant. That's what emancipated her.
I wish there was just some
I wish there was just some way to keep CS fair. I, personally, feel like my DH SHOULD provide for his kids expenses 50/50. I would not want to be with him and have kids with him if he wasn't responsible enough to take care of the ones he already had. That is a situation that I "knew I was getting into"
Buuuutttt, expecting him to provide for his kids is much different than support BM and seeing the kids go without or still having to provide for them on top of the outgoing money.
I really feel for your situation. I would lose my mind if money was leaving my home every month and the kid didn't even live with the BM. I wish there were more common sense in family law.
I have no issues whatsoever
I have no issues whatsoever with him paying CS. It's his duty as a father. Even if MSD didnt live with BM but she was still giving her some support money to help her out. I would feel okay even with that. But it just irks me that she helps MSD with NOTHING yet collects all this money for her. What a greedy bitch.
I'm 50/50 on if MSD is
I'm 50/50 on if MSD is actually going to report BM. I think she is mad and wants to but doesnt want to burn any bridges with her. Honestly things aren't awesome over here with her and I and DH doesn't see her as much as he should because of the issues, so if she cuts out BM by turning her in, she really wouldn't have the parental support that she needs. Even if her mom is crappy, it's still her mom.
I seriously wonder though what her BF and his parents who have raised and provided for the baby think about BM claiming the baby. I would be PISSED if I was them.
Well I sent the email about the insurance, so I am hoping SOMETHING comes out of that.
As for the CS the only way we can fix that is if we take custody of MSD and that isn't going to happen. As much as I dont like the money going to BM, taking custody of MSD would be worse. Mainly because she has the baby and is in a different school district. It just wouldnt work.
She said she was going to get
She said she was going to get her taxes done. BM already filed and got back her taxes. ($8000 and she makes $26000 a year- how is that even possible!!!! UGH) I am hoping that she does claim the baby and that will alert the IRS.
What is wrong with these
What is wrong with these people? Why did the BM even have the kid's social security number? I don't know what your SD is like, but I feel bad for her that she has to deal with such a loser of a mom.
I have some serious issues
I have some serious issues with MSD BUT I will say that BM treats her way worse then she treats OSD and YSD. I honestly think that she is jealous of MSD. She is very pretty and smart.
Not sure why BM had the SS#. I questioned that too in my head... maybe when she added him to her insurance because I guess at one time he was on it.
I imagine MSD and baby got on
I imagine MSD and baby got on Medicaid after the birth of baby (so cheap BM decided it was 'ok' to drop insurance). While BM would have no legal responsibility to cover baby under BM's plan or an individual plan (nor is DH), things have changed enough with MSD that your DH shouldn't be giving the BM a 'extra' on amount of CS received if BM is no longer paying that insurance as CO. If Cs is higher because BM was providing insurance and has since stopped the plan, DH might ask for a CS review. I would also think that when MSD graduates in May that if CS is still required as part of your state's guidelines/laws, that the CS could be ordered to go to MSD herself and not BM. DH can prove MSD no longer lives with her mother but instead lives independently of either parent (living with bf/bf's parents would be a mute point as far as they supporting MSD, the fact remains the daughter no longer lives under the roof or financial support of either parent...except Dad still pays CS to BM who in no way supports or supplies anything to MSD).
If CS can be reviewed for the insurance bit and transferred to go directly to the non-resident of either parent MSD, it'd lower the CS and Dad's financial efforts in supporting his daughter would actually go to the daughter. the tax thing wouldn't be wrong if MSD actually lived with BM, but MSD doesn't and hasn't to a degree of qualifying for credit of MSD (or baby) doing so...tip-off IRS of possible tax benefit fraud and let them sort out the tax return issue. It might turn out BM has to pay back the undeserved refund. How did she get baby's social security # if baby and MSD doesn't even live with BM? SD should never have given it to Mom.
MSD lived with BM after the
MSD lived with BM after the baby was born for maybe 2, 3 months at the most. Not sure how she got SS.
I am hoping she will have to provide proof of insurance and if she can't that they will re-evaluate it. CS will be re-evalauted anyways in a couple of months once MSD graduates HS.
I think this is illegal. I
I think this is illegal. I remember one time, my brothers exGF used to get CS for her daughter. Her daughter later moved into her grandmothers house but the mom was still getting CS for her.
The daughter, who was in HS, went to court and said that she no longer lived with her mother and asked for the money to go directly to her. The courts obliged and stopped sending the CS to the mom.
Our BM collected CS for two
Our BM collected CS for two YEARS on a skid who not only wasn't living with her, but had a child of her own and another on the way!
We were told there wasn't anything we could do about it because of how the order was written.