My Grandma's funeral was this weekend. It was a very nice service. Grandma = my mom's mom

My dad (who has been divorced from my mom for almost 29 years) came to the service. He has remained on friendly terms with his Ex MIL this whole time. He lives about 3 hours from where my hometown is and 6 hours away from me.

Even "stranger" (in step world) my SM (married to my dad since I was 16) has also been "close" to my Grandma. My SM was in a serious accident about 12 years ago and my Grandma used to send my SM letters and correspond with her and send her books, crosswords, etc since she was stuck in bed.

My SM did not go to the funeral because they brought my AS (adopted sister) with them and my SM needed to watch over her. She has some mental issues and a funeral would not be a place for her.

AD sister will be 16 in Sept but has the mental capacity of maybe a 11 year old. Add being spoiled by my SM and dad and haivng serious mental issues.... yeah.....

I went and visited my dad, SM and AD (they were camping) after the service and me and my BS couldnt even be by my dad for more then 5 minutes without AD being around. It's always like that. It's jealousy on her part. But I am thinking you get to be with my dad every single day of your life and I see him twice a year and I cant even get 5 minutes with him without you having to interupt us and having all the attention on you. Even my 8 year old son notices it. So sadly I left that visit with my dad a little sad. Not wanting to feel like "that SD" but wishing I could spend some real time with my dad. Funny thing I have ZERO issues with my SM. She is awesome. But it's my AD. It's awful to be around her.

After the service at the cemetary my mom, sister and my nieces were huddled together and hugging and I walked over and got in on the hug and then my BS joined in and then my dad joined in. LOL so weird. My "Nautural" family all hugging together.

Thankfully everyone has always gotten along. My mom and SM have always been very friendly with each other. My parents have always remained friendly with each other. Our families all inner mingle with each other and there are no issues.

Sad thing is that there is a family "fued" going on between my mom and her siblings. One of the brothers is angry at my mom and the other 2 brothers. Well the angry brother has pulled in his uncle and aunt (my grandma's siblings) and they decieded to NOT come to my Grandma's funeral. Very sad.... we had such a close family and now one side is angry at the other side over stupid stuff that doesnt even make sense... (long story)

So divorced families were able to celebrate my Grandmas life (my cousin's ex husband and his new wife were also at the funeral to celebrate my Grandma as they too had a good relationship with her) but her own siblings and children couldnt even get it together.