How do I deal with a 17 and 18 stepson who see our house as the getaway house. If they don't like how there mom is disciplining them them come to our house, but all they do is play video games til 4 in the morning, leave dirty dishes in their rooms, don't flush the toilet, leave their rooms a mess, don't wash their dishes, leave dirty clothes on the floor and when they leave I tell them to clean and they say OK but when I get back everything is still a mess and they won't be back for a week. My husband doesn't tell them anything. He acts like their friend and not their dad.