So, I've been with my partner for four years, we now have a two year old son together. I have three kids from previous relationship that live with me. My partner BJ has a daughter (non-custodial) from a previous relationship. I think a lot of mistakes have been made while trying to blend our family and now things are messed up. My kids took to BJ right away, this made me love him even more, and he seemed to really love them. Things started to go downhill when his daughter, then the age of 4 came into the picture more frequently.