what's up with the changes?
Usually, I am looking forward to SS going home Sunday at 9. This weekend, i didn't want him to leave. Strange, huh?
Well for the past two weeks SS has been overly affectionate towards me. SS and DH usually play together, but all weekend he wanted to play with me. He is a really picky eater (really only eats chicken) but I made lasagna and tuna patties and both times he told me everything was delicious. He even asked if I would make my special green soup. I am not that good a cook, but it was nice of him to say. Also, he has always been very shy about his body and always asks me to leave the room so he can change, but this weekend he asked if I would change him and he asked DH to leave the room! He has also been very cuddly and affectionate.
I don't really know why SS has changed so much. I think it has something to do with the fact that his aunt is pregnant and has now moved in with her bf. The only thing BMs family seems to be good at is getting knocked up by wealthy men, but that is really neither here nor there. SS was pretty much being raised by his grandmother and this aunt (the last of the BM clan without a baby). Well now that she is gone, I don't think he is getting the affection he needs from anyone, and I think he is looking to me to give it to him.
Maybe not, maybe I am waaay off and this is just a phase but I don't know. Has anyone ever gone through this? Is this normal? SS is almost 5, by the way.
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My SS is very lovey when his
My SS is very lovey when his BM is not comeing around. But when shes in the picture its alot less. So enjoy your SS hugs and kisses. Where is BM?
Well, BM has primary custody
Well, BM has primary custody but she would rarely take care of SS. She lived with her mother and would leave SS w her so she could go out with friends. Once she got married and moved out SS told us that he wasn't living with mommy anymore because she had moved in with her husband's parents and I guess they didn't want him there. DH confronted her about it and said if SS wasn't physically living with her she should,t have custody and so I guess he moved in with them because he never mentioned it again, but his grandmother is the one to drop him off at school, his aunt picks him up and he used to spend all afternoon with them until his aunt moved away. Now it's just him and grandma til his mom picks him up late at night.
SS is generally effectionate
SS is generally effectionate with me. But it is always a sure sign of something going wrong at BM's house when it is more than usual. It never fails when I recognize the difference, all of the sudden BM's world is coming to an end... AGAIN.
I just enjoy it while it lasts. I love that kid dearly, so it's always nice for me. He is a good kid, I have no complaints. I just wish he didn't have to go through the emotional roller coaster all of the time.
I think that's great. I
I think that's great. I really do feel for these stepkids who are not being properly co-parented. They didn't ask for their situation and it really isn't their fault.
I really never had a problem with my SD as a child. She was pleasant and sweet. We shared 50/50 and I did everything for her...she is now 19 and a brat.
I think boys are different, too. Hopefully this will continue and he can have someone who models what a good mother is to him!