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yolo222's picture

I'm so thankful today for many things. My family and friends. My job and my life in general. You all are probably sick of me whining but I think I'm suffering from some depression after my recent break up.

The holiday was hard. I can't lie. It's hard to adjust to being alone again. I know it takes time and I'm working on myself. It's just been rough!!

I would also like to say I'm so thankful for this forum. When I originally came here my ex was making me feel like I was nuts for wanting my own life with him without the ex. You all made me feel as though you knew what I was going through.

Bottom line is I'm alone and he has a new love who is fine with being a family with the ex. They are all probably eating turkey together as we speak. Lol In the back of my mind at times I think I was the one with the problem and I was obviously replaced quite easily with someone who was more understanding. I wish I could have been different but I never would have been happy.

It has been an eyo opener for me and it's been very disheartening to say the least.

Happy thanksgiving to all. Keep your head up people even during the difficult times. Love to you all.

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CANYOUHELP's picture

All that is shining is definitely not gold....

Do not discount yourself Yolo. No intelligent woman would want to hang out with the ex wife all the time; most of us would not consider it at all, except under dire circumstance. Do not believe this dynamic is as wonderful as you hear, believe or have been told. People do not change and history tends to repeat itself as time passes. What is new is definitely different from--- that which is old. You are right to follow your heart, even with the growing pains, happiness is right around the corner for you. Being alone is a temporary condition.

I am thankful for this forum, as well. I questioned myself that I was the only one with these insane thoughts and feelings. I quickly learned I am only one in a million who experience mess just like me. The posters have taught me how to change myself and I am finally at peace. I owe much of that--to this forum!

Acratopotes's picture

Yolo - who's the best holiday buddy but your own self? Hell you will never have a fight, never disagree on what you are going to do......

Nope Hon, lift yourself up and enjoy the holidays, do what ever you want, even if it's going to the movies in your PJ's and robe with un comb hair and bad breath...... don't forget the bottle hidden in the brown paper bag....

Take a blanket and a nice book, with a picnic basket and go to the park, for a lovely day of reading, there might be some other singletons hanging in the park and before you know it, you are 12 single people partying away... but sitting at home alone is not going to make this happen....

bench watch soapies fro the 80's - Hey I did Sex and the City a month ago, and it was all like a new thing,
just completed brothers and sisters, hell that rob lowe is a dish....

see allot of things you and your new best friend can do....

clark6292's picture

You don't miss him, you miss who you wanted him to be. Everyday you have an opportunity to rebuild your life in a positive direction. I like what seue2 offered, and I am in the same boat as you (spent yesterday without DH) so I will be taking this advice too. My DH will find another "sucker" soon too. But he won't have me again!