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O/T: Problem With My 3 Year Old Going to Bed and Acting Out

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Submitted by xtina on Mon, 03/18/2013 - 5:05pm

Hello all! I am posting about my own son here because I know I'll get some super helpful advice! I appreciate all advice because I'm at my wit's end! My son will be 3 in 2 weeks and has always had trouble falling asleep. He has always gone to bed around 11 PM. This is beyond frustrating because when I have to work, i Have to get up at 5AM. He doesn't nap for me anymore, which is fine because then he is exhausted by bedtime.

Broken up with SO....... SKID FREE!

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Submitted by xtina on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 3:25pm

I posted awhile back that I was planning on leaving my SO. We lived together, we had just bought a house. I couldn't stand his little brat kids. I mean absolutely despised their existence. I was so miserable every other week when they were with us. My own son was suffering because the skids were so destructive of his stuff and my stuff. I just couldn't take it anymore. Plus, there were a lot of things about SO I just wasn't diggin' anymore.

I've made the decision to leave SO!

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Submitted by xtina on Mon, 01/28/2013 - 4:27pm

There is a LOT to my decision. I have been thinking it over for awhile now. A few weeks ago, he told me he has been thinking about ring shopping and when he said that, it kind of set alarm bells off in my head like "Do I really want this?"
A little background info: SO and I have been together for about a year and a half. I have BS2 (not SO's) and SO has SS3 and SS5. We recently moved in to a new house together. Technically he bought it but my name is on the deed also. We have lived together since October.
Here are my reasons for wanting to break up:

There goes MY day!

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Submitted by xtina on Sun, 01/13/2013 - 12:23pm

This weekend was my and SO's weekend off. Neither of us have kids or work. We had plans today to shop and I was going to do painting projects. This morning I woke up to my SO leaving to pick up his son. My SO's mom had taken SS5 this weekend like she does every weekend we don't have him. BM wants her weekends free to party and my SO won't take him every weekend.anyway today apparently BM says her car won't start and can't pick up her son so my SOs mom called and bitched at him saying its his son and his responsibility to pick him up and bring him back to BMs.

First "run in" with SO's family!

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Submitted by xtina on Wed, 12/19/2012 - 7:30am

Background... I have been with my SO just over a year. He has 2 boys SS3 and SS5, whom I cannot stand. Little bratty kids. Mean to my kid, (BS2) etc. Anyway, in that year I have met my SO's parents one time and they only live an hour away. We went to visit so i could meet her for the first time and the only thing she said to me was "hi". Didn't make an effort to talk to me. whenever she comes to town she calls SO "and says why don't you and the boys meet me for dinner". She never invites me. It's ok really, I don't want to go so I can be ignored and watch her fawn all over the skids.

Officially labeling him "Disney Dad"

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Submitted by xtina on Wed, 12/05/2012 - 8:38am

I always knew my SO spoiled his kid rotten. The kid (3) gets whatever he wants, when he wants. SO gives him cookies and chips whenever the kid says he's hungry, which is all the time. They get home in the evening and the kid says "I'm hungry" so he get's treats to "hold him over" til dinner. You would think the kid's daycare doesn't feed him.
Anyway
Last night I made a really delicious stir fry dinner with lots of vegetables. I'm big on veggies at my house and my son LOVES them. SS3 refused to take ONE bite and threw a fit. His dad made him stand in the corner for awhile.

Every Other Week visitation

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Submitted by xtina on Mon, 12/03/2012 - 12:17pm

My mom and I were talking about SS3 over the weekend and I was doing my usual Sunday night bitching that it was almost time for SS3 to come over for the week and my mom said "I don't know why people come up with that arrangement. All it does is screw kids up. They don't have a "home" ".
My mom is smart, she has been doing daycare for 26 years and has seen children of divorced parents and how they act out because they are confused.
They have 2 sets of rules, 2 disciplining styles, etc.

The nerve of some people!!!

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Submitted by xtina on Thu, 11/29/2012 - 12:08pm

Yesterday, I was at the store with my 2 1/2 year old and he was screaming bloody murder and throwing the biggest fit ever, so I abandoned our cart and set him down on the floor, got on his level and said "I will count to ten and you better shape up or you get a spankin." I was calm about it, I don't react to temper tantrums I just try to stay calm. He gets a swat on the butt when he is super naughty (not very often I do this). Some lady overheard me and said "If you spank that child I will call the police." I was shocked and dumbfounded. I told her she needs to mind her own business.

Oh HELL no!

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Submitted by xtina on Sun, 11/25/2012 - 7:27am

The last time both of my SO's boys were at our house together, they destroyed my son's room. When they left that Sunday night, I came home from work and my son's room was DESTROYED. Pictures had been ripped off the wall, his clothes from his dresser were thrown around the room, pages had been torn out of most of the books, and toys were broken. (mind you my son was not there at the time, he was at his dads)

Feel Free To Be Jealous!

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Submitted by xtina on Mon, 11/19/2012 - 7:36am

Originally my SO was going to have his bratty little kid on Thanksgiving and we were all going to go to my mom's. Just how I wanted to spend the day... NOT.
But my SO just told me that he is going to his mom's the night before and coming back Saturday!

MEANING our week with him will be cut short. YAY!

They are doing Thanksgiving at my SO's parents on Saturday. Too bad I have to work Smile
Aw darn.

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