Pathetic. That's all I can say.

Did she really just ask your husband out on a date?

His response was perfect.

I sweeeaarrr I have no ulterior motives... Right, okay bc you literally just emailed him the day before crying about your poor unrequited love.. Ugh. How do these women sink so low??

BM's message did very much remind me of the messages BM would send DH when she was trying to get under his guard and find a way back in. As soon as I read 'I promise you I do not have any ulterior motives' there was a siren saying 'ulterior motive! ulterior motive!'. DH's response did make me wince slightly, but better to be too blunt than to leave any chink of false hope.

Pathetic is an extreme understatement.

I just love how she actually expected that he would say yes... "Feel free to email or call me and we can set up a time for dinner my treat."

You know, at this point, I seriously don't see anything wrong with YOU emailing her and letting her know that you do not appreciate her attempts at getting between you and your DH and putting her on notice that any further BS from her and she'll be dealing directly with you on ALL matters.

The gall of these psycho's! Grrr. }:)

The BM in my case thought they would have "family dinners" (her, DH and the skids) after they split up. He actually went (because Guilty Daddy is a pu$$y when it comes to dealing with the BM) but things were so uncomfortable that he never went back. I told him he'd have to decide whether or not to go. I like your DH's response. In my case Guilty Daddy made the wrong choice; just another reason why he is the wrong choice for me.

Who is this BM? Glenn Close from "Fatal Attraction"?

She's right, she doesn't have ulterior motives, she has put them all out there.

Our BM tried that tactic too. My DH responded about like yours did. Anything they need to discuss could be discussed without having to meet up face-to-face.

We did exchanges through a neutral third-party exchange. I feel like she lost her right to see my husband's face!

Bahahahaha! How pathetic can aBM get?! BM here used to grab DH or rub on him when he would pick up the skids (before we got married). It made him physically ill! He finally had to quit getting out of the truck because she wouldn't take 'no!' For an answer! I just laughed and told him that I was sorry he went through that. All I could think was, "how pathetic do you have to be?!"

I agree, you and DH should be a unites front. Anything that pertains to the kids involves you too, whether she likes it or not. Took my BM awhile to learn this. In the beginning of my ordeal she actually had the nerve to text my DH one night "you are being unfair to the girl you're with and need to break things off. How do you think it makes me feel to see the two of you together". Of course DH showed me the message. My BM was so mad that she couldn't manipulate DH that she actually filed a Domestic Assault affidavit against him. Thankfully the after the judge asked her a few questions, he figured out quick what she was trying to do and dismissed the entire thing. That judge and the one we had for our visitation hearing both told her to grow up (it was funny). But he now uses the words "we" and "us" when referring to him and I so that she gets the point that we both have active roles in SD's life

Ha! That reminds me of my BM - she and my DH have 4 adult children. She and the kids all live in another state. She and SS were going to be about 2 hours away from where we live, so she asked my DH to join them for lunch. Although, in this case, I'm sure she would expect my DH to treat. She is poor because she doesn't work and has no shame when it comes to asking him for anything - hand-me-down cell phones, household appliances... Anyhoo, he responded, "No. How do you think 'I got a good one' would feel about that? I will not do anything to endanger my marriage."