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Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 7:52am

OMG. I am the BEST disengager (yes that is a word today!)around. Or so I thought. Well now the white trash BM and clan have stepped over the line and bashed my son on FB. FOR NO REASON. I know…why let it bother me, but it was terrible and he is MY son. He does not know these people. I want to rip someone’s freaking heart out!! Starting with DH, then SS, then his nasty mother, then the rest of the nasty clan.

None of their crap really ever gets to me. So I don’t know how to handle this new found hatred! How do some of you do it? I don’t want to be in the same house with SS and can barely look at DH. Makes me sick all the way around.

10 years ago, I knew that SS and BM came before me and I was ok with that. But, now, after two years of marriage, I feel that DH is only truly happy if BM and SS are happy and calm. Even at the expense of me and my family. Not sure if I can stay with a man like that.

How do you look at them the same when you see that they REALLY have NO spine?

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stepgin's picture

Submitted by stepgin on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 8:09am

I would just no have any relationship with these crazy people. De-friend all of them! And tell your DH how sick you are of putting up with this bullshit! I've recently gotten in touch with my inner bitch and it's been great! It's allowed me to focus more on people that actually give a shit about me! Disengagement is the most wonderful thing!

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Submitted by bruisedpeach on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 8:57am

amen. and the only person who suffers in the end is you as resentment ages, and makes you bitter.
take care of number 1.

hbell0428's picture

Submitted by hbell0428 on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 9:19am

Hello Willow; welcome to my house.....LMAO

the word for the day for me is BITTER; I have come to the realization that my Princess SD13 is untouchable. There is no use in me bothering. Even if I try my best to change things or show that I care - it is turned around on my overreacting, being a bit** or them not listening to me.

When she speaks to me I don't even look at her in the eye. I thing it is because over the years DH tried to PUSH her on me with "you are her mother." WELL NO I'M NOT and when I try to be DH over rides me.

the question I have is not HOW we do it but WHY

Crayon - Doormat is a good word too Smile

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 01/12/2011 - 11:56am

Email FB. They will shut it down.

As for not respecting DH, right there with you. I can not stand that he won't call BM on all of the problems. He has no problem telling me what I am doing wrong, but can't say a word to BM and SD14.