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Submitted by the wicked witch on Sun, 11/25/2012 - 7:34pm

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MY SD had her baby not quite 3 weeks ago and has been being very rude and disrespectful to me. I planned to do the family pictures yesterday, but she HIJACKED the whole day by telling me on Wednesday that she WOULD NOT do the pictures with us. She said she would be too tired from Thankgiving at her bio moms to even get ready and come to the photo shoot on Saturday. I have bent over backward to do everything that I can for this SD and am TIRED of being the ONLY one giving!! TIRED!!! I talked to my husband and we agreed that we would go forward with the shoot since we actually would have the the other six children (bio and steps) there for the pictures, which is not easy to accomplish. SOOOO she is pissed at me and has FB banished me and such. I know I should disengage, but I am TIRED of being the only one giving. I love this Grandbaby (the first grandchild ) and I have raised my SD since she was 12. DISENGAGING IS NOT EASY!!! NNOOOOOWWWW.. my husband just came home and told me that the baby is in the hospital with a high fever and they dont know what is causing it. My first impulse is toi rush down there and be with her..as I would for any of my own children..BUT she did not call me, ahe did not call me to see if I could help her take down the fever...NOPE!! Her first baby.....should they not call their moms for help. She would NEVER call her mom becasue she wasnt there fo her!@!! she was pissed at me last, and has been using the baby as emotional blackmail because she knows I love her. I dont know what to do??? Do I go down there and offer my help even though I dont have her asking, or do I wait here at home with my hands tied behind my back and my heart in a bind. I AM DAMNED IF I DO AND DAMNED IF I DONT!! The way I see it, If I go down there and she is mad at me for doing so, then Im a bad guy!! If I dont go, then to the whole familay I just dont care enough to go down there!!! Maybe you guys who have actually been there can help me.....my heart is in an uproar right now and I am frustrated!!!HELP!!!

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Submitted by midnyt on Sun, 11/25/2012 - 7:50pm

I could be way off mark here, but perhaps that is her way of reaching out after she behaved so badly? by telling her dad she knows it would get back to you and then hope that you would come to the hospital to be with her, without her having to swallow her pride and actually ask after she threw a shit fit?

Maybe you could give her a call and see if everything is ok and if she wants you to come to the hospital, that way you have satisfied the family that you do care and if she says no then you dont come off looking like the bad guy?

Just a thought, good luck with what you decide to do.