I am writing this from the comfort of my bed-where I have been since Sunday afternoon. First I had a raging sinus infection, then the infection moved into my tooth. I had the tooth pulled yesterday, and a bone graft done to prep for the implant I am now going to need. Thank God for Vicodin, mega doses of ibuprofen and wine.

Anyway-I managed to drag myself out of bed for our regular session with therapist last night. Obviously, DH did the driving. It turns out that DH either spun everything the wrong way or completely misunderstood what therapist said during the session with DH and ASS this past Saturday morning.

ASS told therapist that he was just completely stressed out all of the time because he "just doesn't know what the expectations are." Now, that's a total bunch of bullshit, because ASS has been told on numerous occasions what the expectations are. Therapist got him to agree to live by a list of expectations that DH and I create. She also got him to agree to the consequences of not living up to the expectations.

She told us to get very simplistic and very specific, so when we got home last night, DH and I made up the list of expectations. This list is a one-way street-meaning it only contains things that ASS must do in order to have his cell phone and electronics returned to him. Since my concern was that it would be more like a contract, with ASS giving us a list of requirements, I was hesitant to agree. But, since it's merely a list of our expectations of ASS, I was happy to climb on board this train.

The beautiful topper on this shit cake? The first thing ASS must do is apologize to me for both the CPS incident and the pushing me around last month. He will never agree to that, but that is his decision to make or not make.

The best part of the whole evening? Therapist shot down every argument and complaint ASS had about DH and me by repeatedly telling him "that is what parents do" and "when you're an adult then you'll get to make those kinds of decisions" and if you want to be treated like an adult, you must act like one."

I believe ASS will be given the list of expectations this evening. I'll let you know whether he chooses to apologize to me or not.