I am a SM of 5 years. What I struggle with is feeling like I'm not any part of importance in my SD8 life. Wondering what role is a step parent suppose to have for the child? I feel like I put time and money into her and there is no connection between us. My bf, her father, tries to include me in everything they do when I'm there and shows that I'm important. He has a complete bond with her and she is wrapped around his finger, the type of healthy father/daughter relationship. I never had that with my dad, perhaps that is why I'm struggling with mine and my sd8 relationship.