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WOW!!! Thanks for all your responses, But I think the American system is totally screwed up in regards to support payments!!!!

vgill's picture

I don't mean to offend anyone but WOW! I don't know how anyone can make it with a divorce in the USA!! I live in Canada, and yes we may have high tax rate but, your laws are soo crazy I don't know how you live! First of all you have your health insurance, that is soo expensive, then yours laws regarding something soo universal as families differ so much not only from state to state but from county to county, I just think that a standardized set of laws for the whole country would help out more parents. I totally think you guys need medicare! I don't think there should be any spousal support either. I was a single Mom for years and took care of my 3 children by myself, and yes I got the house but I paid for it! my ex has never supported his kids and I doubt he ever will, he gets a job his wages are garnished he quits the job and works under the table to avoid paying. But even if he did pay I would not want it to be more than he could afford, yes help out but if he cannot live on the remainded than it is too much! I totally disagree with spousal support, I feel that a grown person should get up and go to work and support their own needs and those of their children, this also teaches children that if you want something go and work for it because no one is going to do it for you! And when all is said and done you can be proud of what you accomplished! Perhaps I am just talking out my ass and I have no intention of trying to hurt someones feelings but this is just my opinion and even though everything is not perfect I am some glad I am a Canadian!!!!

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onehappygirl's picture

Ahhh, but you see, we are the United STATES of America. We are a replublic, meaning that the states are in control and rule themselves. The federal government was originally only meant for the states' defense. In theory it should work just like so many other forms of government work "in theory". Unfortunately, everyone has to have their fingers in every pie, and it's gotten way out of hand now. The federal government no longer stays out of the States' business. Here, we'll give you some funding if you allow us to tell you how to run your government. ~sigh~ No offense taken at all. It's neat to learn how we differ.
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vgill's picture

I couldn't be bothered watching hockey but i hear it was a good game very dramatic I guess!

Candyfrogs's picture

I must admit that our health insurance sucks and I understand what you're saying about not wanting the ex to pay more than they could afford... BUT! I will tell you as someone who gets child support for my oldest that it is more than fair. He had to pay me $100 a week. He has no car. As the primary residencial parent, I take her to all dr appt.s, I pay for a place with an extra bedroom for her. It's my water bill she's charging those 30min showers to. Although he is 'suppose' to pay for half of medical, sports, etc. He doesn't so it's my credit that has those bills that slip through the insurance on it. I pay for sports, friends b-day gifts, those damn $60 converse shoes she loves sooo much. It goes on and on but really, it is fair. Now in all fairness, when he was talking about leaving his girlfriend (they also have a baby) in Seattle and moving back to Florida, he mentioned that he just couldn't afford 2 child support payments. I offered that if he came back I would give him my child support card so he could recycle the $ and not have to worry about paying me. In this case, him being here with BD8 means more than the $100 a week.
Spouse support? I honestly don't have a valid opinion because I've never been involved with it but it sounds like it would suck if I was a guy having to pay for my ex wife in addition to the kids. However! I sure sounds good if I was a wife! LOl