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BM wants SD to send her pictures from our house

Unhappy's picture

Submitted by Unhappy on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 4:40pm

Apparently after SD 8 told BM all about the vanity she got for her bday and all of her Christmas gifts BM wants SD to take pictures of it with her phone and send them to her. When SD told Dh this he was okay with it. I on the other hand am not. I personally think that what WE buy SD as gifts is none of her business and to the life of me I can't understand why BM would want to see what we got her. Or why she would tell SD to take pictures and send them to her.

I talked with DH about it and it's not going to happen. We take SD's cell phone the minute she walks in the door and it's not returned until she is leaving to go back to BM's house. SD did mention something about taking pictures using DH's phone. Hopefully he stays on it and makes sure she doesn't do it.

Anybody know why all of a sudden BM is so interested in what was purchased for SD for Christmas and her bday?

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whatwasithinkin's picture

Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 4:55pm

Tures sent.

I dont think this is a hill I would die on.

It is her stuff (yes you bought it) but it is new and exciting to her, she is 8 and wants to show her excitement to her Mom.

Now I personally would have said, I know your excited so Ill take some pictures for you and Ill send them to Mommy.

You satisfy her excitement and look like your working with Mom, DH is dumb enuf to thinks it wonderful, and BM gets the picture that you are in charge of your house hold and you have control over the pictures sent.

Send them with a text...sd wanted to send you some pictures so we decided to take some pictures togetner thought Id forward them over...

Chances are, BM wont ever ask again

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Submitted by kathc on Thu, 01/17/2013 - 11:35am

I like this idea. Chances are, she wants pics because SD (like most kids) will take a zillion pics and show her your entire home. This is probably what BM wants. I love the idea of you taking the pics WITH SD and making sure YOU control exactly what is in them!

Unhappy's picture

Submitted by Unhappy on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 5:01pm

You have to understand that the BM in our life is not sane at all. Aside from the sitting outside of the house at 3 am, she would also show up at the house while DH and I were at work uninvited, she has also invited herself into our home without our approval as well. I'm good on her staying out of our life.

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Submitted by HadEnoughx5 on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 5:50pm

YUP. BM is afraid you may be the "cooler" parent and the next time a gift is being given to her BM wants to one up DH

Unhappy's picture

Submitted by Unhappy on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 7:11pm

I'm just going to chalk it it up to her being nuts and once again over stepping the boundaries between what's acceptable and what's not. Who knows why she wants to see the things that we bought SD all I know is that it's not going to happen any time to soon. She can just sit there and ponder about what the vanity looks like and how much it costs. She is not allowed in our home nor does she need to know what's been purchased and what it looks like.

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Submitted by silentnites on Wed, 01/16/2013 - 11:51pm

It's just a control thing. Then next time she can say to your SD " why don't you tell them what you need, they obviously can afford it".