I am new to this support group and find it helpful to hear stories so similar to ours.  We are a blended family, married 8 years, I brought 2 sons to the family (BF deceased), DH brought 2 daughters to the family (by 2 different BMs).  Oldest DS died in tragic car accident at the age of 18 – a year after we were married, youngest DS21 is a junior at a major renowned university.  SD15 is our problem child mainly due to PAS and narcissistic BM’s influence.  DH never married BM1 as pregnancy occurred immediately upon them meeting, if you get my drift.  SD12 is a delightful and happy girl.  DH