my ex wife and i divorced when my daughters were 9 and 2. my ex is engaged, her fiance is nice and my older daughter gets along with him. the younger one does too because she follows the older one whatever she does. but the older one hates my wife. my older daughter is 14. she was always a good child,wasn't spoiled, didn't ask for much, was respectful..and this is why her attitude in this situation surprised me. in communication with my wife, she is respectful. yes, cold and sometimes harsh, but respectful.