I have four kids (2g 2b) and my husband has 3 kids (3b). We have been together for 5 years. Our parenting we definitely different when we first started blending our family years ago. Prior to us living together my husband lived with his mom, because the mother of his boys are not in their lives. So he moved in with his mother so she could help him with the boys while he worked nights. His boys did not have any chores, structure, and we're allowed to run wild sonto speak when they were with grandma during the day.