Being a childless step mom is the one hardest parts of my life. Having a child of my own is gone... I grieve the reality of being childless forever…There is nothing that can make this pain go away. Nobody can give a magic pill to make everything better. You try to explain however, anyone with children of their own just can’t seem to understand the pain and grief. My stepchildren have a mother already (although dead) and we know that we are not her. I am quite aware of that and DH’s family surely does not let me forget it.