Am I being Bitchy or am I right?
SD15 is turning 16 next week and she asked DH if he is buying her a car. He gives her a sly glance like he is thinking about it and she has her hopes up. I told her more than once that she is not having a big blow out sweet 16. For one thing she is pregnant and I'm getting her gifts for the baby that is what she needs to worry about not some party. I pull DH's happy behind into the bedroom.
Ticked- DH don't make her think we are getting her a car
DH- But its her birthday she made a mistake we can't punish her forever
Ticked- That is not the point
DH- Then whats the point
Ticked- We don't have car money
DH- I was going to look at used cars this weekend mabye something alonge the lines of 1800?
Ticked- Don't you think that would be better spent on the bills I was thinking we could get her a crib and a sh*t load of diapers.
DH- What if I get a payday advance
Ticked- We are not going into debt so she can get a car. If she had a job and could pay for half plus her own insurance like SD18 it would be different.
DH- Well she obviously can't work right now
Ticked- She should have hought of that before she got pregnant
DH- She didn't get pregnant on purspose
Ticked- Did I say she did? She sure didn't protect herself but that is besdies the point
DH- Why do you always do this? you bitch about everything. You know what I'm done talking about this now
Ticked- I'm done talking about this period
I can''t win with him. I'm always the bad guy. Lucky he doesn't stay mad long. By the end of the night he is going to be spooning me.
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You're crazy if you think
You're crazy if you think you're being bitchy. She's PREGNANT for the love of God! Her wants take a back seat To the baby's needs.
What the hell does she mean she can't work when she's pregnant? Seriously? WTH does he think a majority of women do? And who is going to be footing the bill the raise the baby? You two! And she wants a car, yeah okay, like hell is what I would say!
Technically no one is going
Technically no one is going to hire a 16 year old pregnant girl. Insurance and maternity leave will stop employers from considering her until after she has the baby.
The title was a joke. I'm
The title was a joke. I'm always bitchy but I know I'm right. and thank you! exactly like hell. I will get her a bus pass if I'm feeling generous.
You're not required to tell
You're not required to tell an employer you're pregnant and for a 16 year old girl the hours she can work are limited anyways during a school year thus insurance is a moot point. We're not talking about an adult her looking for full time work who was laid off while 7 months pregnant.
There is nothing wrong with her working at McDonalds part time after school savings $ for the baby. They can't fire her once they learn she's pregnant and until she's in her mid to late second trimester it wont be plainly obvious.
"she didn't get pregnant on
"she didn't get pregnant on purpose"
A woman has basically 99.99999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% control over whether or not she gets pregnant. She may have been stupid, but she still made a choice to have sex. She definitely had sex on purpose, which resulted in pregnancy. That' stupid logic. You still deal with consequences of your actions whether you "did it on purpose" or not.
Preach it! let me print this
Preach it! let me print this out and tape it to DH's forhead.
I just hate that women have
I just hate that women have men thinking it's so easy to get pregnant when you protect yourself properly.
Take your pill, AND use a condom. I've never known anyone who did both of this & still got pregnant. I'm sure there may be a couple, which is why I didn't say 100%. But women really have men believing birth control is only like 75% effective or something. It's crazy!
birth control or not, she
birth control or not, she still made a choice.
it's like with a DWI. u maybe didnt mean to run off the road and get your bff riding shotgun killed upon impact with that tree, but u still got behind the wheel on purpose, knowing in advance it was going to be a reckless decision...and now will have to live with the consequences of it for the rest of your life. maybe that DWI was tragic, but it is also highly highly likely not the first time the decision was made to drive like that.
maybe she didnt intend to get pregnant, but she still made a very reckless decision. and it was quite likely not the first time either...
ticked, your dh is being a dumbass
sounds like HE needs to learn natural consequences, as well as sd!!
Ask him if he's going to get
Ask him if he's going to get a payday loan to get her a car, how is he going to pay for the insurance on the car that he got by going into debt?
Or who is going to pay for the gas?
Who is going to pay for the repairs? Because 1800 dollar cars don't have warranties.
I just asked him. His
I just asked him. His response " I get it we are not getting her a car you can stop nagging now". What he really meant " Sh*t I didn't think of that".
They usually don't. They
They usually don't. They think in the now, not in the real life. My son made a comment this morning on how his dad every time he gets money he buys lottery tickets. I just shook my head and thought, "That's what 18 year old kids do, not 46 year old men".
That's my question. If she
That's my question. If she can't possibly work right now, and you have to go into debt for the car, is there really the money around for him to foot all the other bills that go along with this? Insurance, gas, yearly registration, any taxes your state may levy , possible repairs. Then of course because she's 16, who is going to pay for any tickets she gets....
1800 for a car, he is
1800 for a car, he is dreaming if he thinks he can get anything that won't have problems. Insurance on a girl is over 1K a year. For my BS honor student it is 1500 a year....Husband is an idiot...
No 16 year old girl gets celebrated for getting knocked up....
You are right. Stuff for the
You are right. Stuff for the baby is more important than a new car.
Why can't she start working
Why can't she start working for your DH now, while she is pregnant. If she's going to work for him after..why not start now. She can save some money for the baby...not a car! She doesn't need a car, if she has one, you will never see her, she will be leaving baby with you and DH and she'll be out partying with her friends. And you are right...I'd get her something for the baby for her birthday, or maternity clothes if it has to be something personal. Her whole world is changing and she might as well get used to the idea now.
DH doesn't want her working
DH doesn't want her working in that "condition". When I was pregnant with DD he treaded me like I was walking on glass. He harped me so hard I stop working for the last 4 months. Granted we had been trying for three years to conceive. My DH just sees all woman and girls escpecially the pregnant one as delicate fragile creatures.