Speaking of Infantilizing
I don't recall being 20 years old and desiring to go back to the 6th grade hijinks and shenanigans. That is EXACTLY what SD20 posts about on social media. "I wanna gooo baaaaaack" and up pops a photo of her and the couple of friends she had in 6th grade making funny faces for the camera. Although I SHOULD have been fantasizing about my younger years as by then; I was two years into a bad marriage with a baby on the way.
Seems foreign to me because I was launched into "adulting" as they say now, the second I turned 17. I was expected to be out the door in one way or another at age 18 (with the exception of being a full time, unmarried missionary or proselytizer). Once I was out that was it. No financial help whatsoever and I had been introduced to the working world at age 12 through babysitting/doing odd jobs, etc.. As my parents often said "you made your bed, you lie in it." Of course the only "career" open to me at the time, being raised in a cult where college was verboten, was marriage, housewifery and/or full time proselytizer.
I guess I was raised to one extreme but the opposite extreme as is SD is equally if not more revolting.
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I was raised different too.
I was raised different too. To launch as soon as I turned 18 , and I DID. I already had a phenomenal job at Blue Cross/Blue Shield, was making a car payment, buying my own food and clothes and gas. The last move was to move out - and I did that too.
I now see that my inlaws raised both of their sons to be emotionally dependent on them. Also having to get mommy and daddy’s approval with major life decisions.
While my DH has exceptional work ethic, he sucks in most all other areas, because of his codependent parents.
I know it might be knee jerk
I know it might be knee jerk on your part based on all of her other actions.. but maybe she was just looking back at a simpler time or when she was closer to those other girls? I think back now and sure there are things I miss about pretty much all ages.. not that I WANT to be 10 again..lol...but reminiscing is different from truly WANTING to be a younger age. I see my SD's will post stuff like this and generally it refers to the fact that they don't see their old friends any more.
Oh I'm pretty sure
that if SD could go back to being a suckling infant in swaddling clothes she WOULD!
that is kind of sad.. there
that is kind of sad.. there are some "adult" things that I am not sure I would like to give up..lol
Same! I too was working by
Same! I too was working by the age of 11, held a job from then on out, and was told repeatedly that once I graduated high school I was out. I then got a great job, my own apt, brand new car. I skipped the marriage and babies part. But I never once longed for high school. I was glad to be done with the drama of it all. I liked my independant life.
It's hard when you came from the expectation of adulting at 17/18, to not expect similar things of skids. Maybe it was extreme, but I never felt it was bad for me at all. It definitely showed me I need to work in order to provide for myself, because no one is going to do it for me.
It’s the parents that change
Parents today put there kids into sports, and other activities, so they are babysat wild parents both work. Kids are not expected to work, but have a good time, in sports, drama club, There for kids think everything should be handed to them because it always was. Here is a new phone, new Xbox, new this new that. The process of working, actually showing up on time and doing something. Where before just showing up was reason for there asses to be kissed. Now they actually have to perform , that something new and not good.
This culture of not walking to school. Stay in the house where it’s safe. Don’t leave the block . Doesn’t help making them good useful people