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Interesting Study on Today's Trend To Delay Adulthood Activities Amongst Adolescents

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 09/19/2017 - 12:12pm

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/cdev.12930/full

Seems all the helicoptering and enmeshment has come home to roost. . .

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Submitted by Puzzled9401 on Tue, 09/19/2017 - 12:32pm

Why would kids who have had everything handed to them and have been babied their whole life want to enter adulthood? Adulthood is scary. You have to (gasp) work ... and spend your money on rent, car insurance and bills!! (Not "fun" stuff like video games and makeup?!?!) Why would anyone want to work to pay bills when Daddy and Mommy can work and pay for my stuff?

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Tue, 09/19/2017 - 12:52pm

One of my SILs is an "artist", she has convinced DH and his family that all "artists" in New York City have their living costs paid for by their families. When he told me that, I told him that was the most ridiculous thing I ever heard. She is nearing 40...

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 09/19/2017 - 1:18pm

Being an artist wasn't even lucrative back in the old days. Van Gogh relied almost exclusively upon his brother, an industrialist, for financial support. Don't get me wrong; I love and respect art, however getting a degree in art is basically saying, I just flushed 80 grand down the toilet.

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Tue, 09/19/2017 - 2:03pm

I have a BFA. I have a job for a steady income and then I do extra art stuff on the side. I've been offered several jobs that would mean I wouldn't have to do side work and could actually have some extra cash around.... But the Skids can't leave the state. Point is. You can totally pay bills with an art degree, just until you actually get some cred, you may have to work another job until you find your dream job. So hopefully someone calls you SIL on his BS. People who's family's pay for everything statistically don't succeed as often because they don't learn how to work.

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Submitted by SugarSpice on Tue, 09/19/2017 - 2:08pm

my bil has a son that is thirty and still lives at home. he went to university for one year and then quit. he worked for a few years and then quit. the son fancies himself a rock musician with the garage filled with guitar equipment and keyboard. these were all paid for by his father. he is unemployable as he wears his black clothing and black fingernails and long hair dyed purple.

this young man makes no effort to grow up or return to univeristy. when he is not toying with his guitar alone (he has no friends his own age) he is playing computer games and he sleeps until past noon. he often gets up after two in the afternoon.

my brother thinks this is normal and makes no effort to change the boys routine. my brother is in denial about having raised a loser. in addition, the father flies the young man all over the country to attend rock festivals.

the son has it so good he will never grow up. brother has not dated since the son was born, and they are inseparable. rather than son and father, they are like husband and wife.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 10:37am

:sick: :sick: :sick: :sick:

By 18 I was married and earning a living. By 19 I was the sole support of my family. By 21 I was a single mom working two jobs with no CS or no welfare. I guess I was doing it all wrong!!

OSS (stb 21) was told by the Girhippo that he would earn a living being a rock star. Sent him to all sorts of fancy Rock Star Camps. Today he is a dishwasher at a casino. The Girhippo would rather see her children in poverty than learn anything from Chef (lucrative construction trade skills).

YSS (stb 15) is also being sent to fancy Rock Star Camps and is being told that he will be an ACTOR for a living. He'd have to be a character actor because he doesn't exactly have "movie star looks" in fact he is downright homely. A face only a mother could love I suppose.