When is it time to see a Dr?
So my Sd is almost four (She turns four in June). She can not (or will not) use the potty. She will hold a bowel movement untill she is sick or she will hide when she poops in her pants and lie if we ask her about an accident. A good friend of mine, with four bio-kids of her own, is worried that there could be something physically wrong with her. I'm not sure if I should be worried.
Dh and Bm have been trying to potty train Munchkin since she was 1 1/2 years old. Munchkin was born at 31 weeks (two months premature) and is behind in growth. I assume she's also behind in development but thats just an assumption. She has this rash that comes out in the cold and Bm has taken her to a billion Drs about it. I think its just that her skin is lacking something and reacts to the cold, like my skin reacts to sweat.
So my question for all of you out there is:
When do you take your child to the docotor about this? Should I be pushing the subject with Dh and Bm? Has anyone dealt with something like this?
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Yea Munchkin seems to always
Yea Munchkin seems to always have a rash, and that leads to other problems. Like her scratching herself then chewing her nails or rubbing her eyes. I'm waiting for the big infection.
I don't want to push her too hard, even though Dh does, unless I know its not something that she can't help. One and a half was way too early to start her on potty training but the mom didn't want to clean diapers anymore. Now I think they have tried everything, ending on the "Oh just don't put her in Pull-ups." which is sooo dumb to me. The kid refuses to use the potty, so I'm supposed to clean piss and poop covered clothes daily? idk It doesn't make sense when we go through almost her whole wardrobe of pants in one day.
I think it's time to take
I think it's time to take her to the doc. It won't hurt anyway. Personally, I think she's alright. She's not the first child who isn't potty trained at 4. Only problem is in most cases the daycare centers who hold preschool must have potty trained kids.
Perhaps the doc can offer some tips.
Yea Bm doesn't have her in
Yea Bm doesn't have her in preschool or anything so she doesn't have the urge to learn. I had her in one before the court battle that was ok with her having a couple accidents. They were really great, they'd just give me the dirty clothes.
Has SD ever been checked for
Has SD ever been checked for Raynaud's Syndrome or other autoimmune diseases? Raynaud's affects the blood vessels in the hands and feet when it's cold. Usually the hands will turn white then red & remain really cold. A rash is sometimes a possibility if there's another rheumatic syndrome present.
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My daughter started using
My daughter started using the potty a few days before her 4th b-day. She was so stubborn until the day she just decided she was going to do it! We did take her to the doctor just to make sure there wasnt a developmental problem. There wasnt...she was just taking her sweet time. I think she is probably just not ready but a check-up never hurts.
bd3 is almost done training.
bd3 is almost done training. she was a 32-weeker, and has mild CP, microcephaly, SPD, and developmental delays. so far with the training, she hasnt given any problem, we (myself and parents), just let it flow and let her do it on her own. we dont pressure at all, we just keep reminding about the potty. your sd may need extra time. even if she wasnt a preemie, kids potty train at different times. my ex's niece is trained at 2, my cousins daughter was trained at 1, but his nephew took extra time, so did my sister's daughter. i think if by age 5 they arent, there is a problem.
with her being a preemie, she may very well have developmental delays, and should have been diagnosed already. from the time bd3 was born, we got her whatever kind of help we felt she needed. whatever services she qualified for, we took for her, and some she even graduated from. i would suggest talking to sd's pediatrician, and see what he/she thinks. i would also get her evaluated for things as well. cant hurt, and if she needs special services, get them. anything to help her along. being a preemie, she may need that extra push.
good luck and let us know what happens!
My grandson was almost 4 and
My grandson was almost 4 and then all of a sudden....it's not that he couldn't, he wouldn't. Stubborn little fella, don't know where he gets that.
Please don't freak out by
Please don't freak out by this advice, but I'm just going by things I have encountered as a stepmom and a teacher... Sometimes in young children potty issues can be a sign of abuse. I've had students who wouldn't bath because mom's boyfriend would come in the bathroom. My own SD had to have examinations done as a little girl due to abuse. For some reason, kids decide to hold it in. (And then they do get cranky because they are quite literally full of %$#@. At the age of 6, she was so impacted, she nearly had to have surgery. I don't know all the details because I didn't want DH to tell me. It just broke my heart... And SD sadly was 14 before she quit bedwetting. Again, most likely a side effect of the abuse she suffered.
I'm not saying that's what's happened in your SDs case, but in this society, our kids aren't with us all the time. We have no idea what might go on at the other family's house; the child might be in daycare...
I would definitely take her to the doctor. (And 12 years ago, I didn't know as the stepmom I shouldn't take the skids to the doctor. No one ever told me I shouldn't. Since we had custody, and our last names were the same, no one ever questioned me. If we'd waited for bio-mom to take care of things, it'd never have gotten done- and it was our insurance... YES, I take my skids to the doctor.)
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See this is scary for me,
See this is scary for me, she was almost fully trained then her mom and her boyfriend (of the month) broke up. She has refused to use the potty ever since. The exboyfriend has told us that Munchkin was being left with some "Shady type" people but would not stand in court (no one wants to help take a baby from its mom....) We have heard stories of people that bm has only known for 2 weeks bathing munchkin, men she has known. I really hope bm was not dumb enough to let something happen, considering the fact bm and her older sister were abused as children.
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