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I said I would try this

Thetis's picture

Submitted by Thetis on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 8:58pm

I said I would try this idea that I stole from middle momma.

BM,
I have known you forever. You were one of the young women I was supposed to mentor. You are one of my best friends little sisters. You used to run to me with questions about boys, or religion.

I should have known we would have problems when you would call when me and DH were first dating, and try to tell me he was saying stuff he wasn't. You caused soo many fights then. A girl of 16, calling her sister's 18 year old friend causing shit. You drove my insecure younger self crazy, and we broke up.

Well a couple months later, I heard you were pregnant. The spiteful side of me laughed so hard at my DH, thinking he got what he deserved. But I was wrong. You turned out to be a curse I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

Hearing the stories of you partying after my SD was brought home, after staying in the hospital for two months, because you were finishing highschool. You never finished! My DH stayed home from work to watch her but you couldn't be bothered to try.

Later I heard of the diper rash that bled and the worms my SD got once you "finished school" and were left in charge. Maybe you should have tried grade 13 and saved her from that.

You and my DH broke up on New Years Day. He had put up with you leaving for days on end to party, showing up only to shower and change. He was hearing the same rumours I was of you cheating on him. You got what you deserved.

After a bunch of shit in the courts you have finally went to far. You will not take my SD 5 hours away from all the family who have bailed you out when you didn't want her around. Just stop and think. You have not experienced the things you want to, but you have two people here ready to give your daughter (she will always be your daughter) everything that you want her to have and more. Just go and have your life. Have your fun. And know that when you are ready she will be here, safe, waiting for her mom to love her for her.

T

(There is sooo much more to this story but know one wants to read for two hours before replying.)
PS I know I have missed the point of this exercise but it feels good to get it out.

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Kb3Hooah's picture

Submitted by Kb3Hooah on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 9:56pm

So glad you were able to try this out! I hope it helped to release some of the negativity off your mind and chest! Smile

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Thetis's picture

Submitted by Thetis on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 9:54am

Mine was no where near as civil and put together as yours... maybe I'll do the continued part latter... I skipped about two years.

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Submitted by NotTheRealMom on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 1:39pm

Kudos to you for opening up! I think that I'm going to try this out...maybe when I can get my hate for BM under control.... Smile
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Submitted by DISbelief on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 11:08am

I don't think you missed the point at all... get it out! Get it ALLL out. I had no idea the dynamics of your "relationship" with BM. And WOW, that is some heavy stuff there. Keep on typin honey... I know you've got more in you.. PURGE... get it all out!

DISbelief~

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