We got the kids back from BM Friday night,... I posted that she just sent a text at 4pm (pick up is 5pm) that the kids are to be picked up at her parents house (45 miles away from her place). That was an ordeal in and of itself, but we went past.

The kids asked FDH if they could stay the night at BM's parent's house and FDH agreed.

SO, fastforward to Saturday afternoon when FDH picks up the kids from their other grandparents.

FDH picks up SD12 and she informs FDH that she does not have her retainer. SD12 explains she didn't know when she left Mom's Friday morning that she would not be going back to BM's (understandable as FDH didn't know either), but SD12 retainer was STILL at BM's.

FDH emails BM something saying she needs to bring the retainer asap.
BM responds that as soon as possible for her is Monday, she will have her mother (who works in BM's town) bring it down.
FDH responds saying 3 days without SD12 wearing her reatiner is unaccepatable asap means as soon as possible, not when it is convient for her MOnday.
BM doesn't respond.
So FDH emails that if she is home, he will drive up there and pick it up so SD12 will have it.
BM emails that the retainer is in the mailbox.

WELL,... SO BM was home, she just didn't feel like tending to her daughter's needs and bringing the retainer down....

THANK YOU BM!!! FOR LETTING US DOCUMENT THAT YOU DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER!!