When did you think “I’ve had enough”?
I guess this has been a gradual process over the last 3 years but I thought the final nail in coffin of caring about him and his future was when YSS19 decided to act like a idiot on our snowboarding holiday and finally went home half way through the week.
Now have until November until he leaves. I’m not certain that we’ll make it that far.
Yesterday, I went to take a shower and found the bath covered in hair, a used razor on the side of the bath and the drain blocked. Nix on the shower. I went to find DH to ask him if he’d suddenly decided to shave his body hair. Obviously it wasn’t DH. I’ve know the man for over 10 years, this isn’t his type of thing.
DH cleaned up the bath and went to speak to YSS19.
DH had to keep pushing YSS19 for an explanation. Turns out his new work colleagues teased him about hair on his stomach so he decided to shave it off.
The mind boggles – why did anyone at his work see his stomach and how can he have so little self confidence that his first reaction is to shave his stomach.
Anyway, DH told me the story to get me to laugh. I did at first.
What happened next would surprise someone with a normal life but not us SMs - DH went on to say that YSS19 denied it was him at first and wait for it... He told DH it must have been ME. Luckily for DH’s ongoing health he didn’t believe him but all the same it pushed my buttons big time.
I reacted so badly to this. I picked up my stuff and went to bed saying that I was done. Done with paying for someone to live in my life that has no respect for me. Done with the little parasite.
I guess I can always hit a new low of “I’ve had enough”.
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OMG. Notasm, that's
OMG. Notasm, that's horrific. I'm not surprised you are pleased to have someone like this out of your life. His poor exGF. No one deserves this.
I hope she didn't see it. I
I hope she didn't see it. I also hope he didn't just transfer the comments to one of those revenge porn sites. Poor thing.
Well done of you and DH in getting it taken care of quickly. Sorry you probably felt like washing your eyes to erase the replusive words.
My SD lied to DH about me,
My SD lied to DH about me, telling him that she had called before just showing up at our house one day (DH was not home). She claimed she left a message and I must have erased it. Oh my God, my blood was boiling so bad I yelled out, "Liar!" (I could hear her on the other end of the phone when DH was talking to her about it).
She asked DH, "Are you gonna let her talk to me like that?" Excuse me?
DH told her, "Yeah, she's not the one lying."
He knows his daughter lies about everything; if she wants to lie about who she's dating or whatever, we're used to it, but lie about me? Trying to get my husband pissed at Me to cover your own ass? We are going to have a serious problem.
Get this asshole out of your house.
I've have had boiling blood
I've have had boiling blood too.
Luckily our DHs aren't stupid enough to fall for the lies. YSS19's are so tranparent, its pathetic. Sounds like your SD is the same.
Glad you got out. From all
Glad you got out. From all you've said he was mad and it wasn't good for your kids. Sounds like you are all much happier now.
I feel your pain. Maybe your
I feel your pain. Maybe your BM & SD will get bored with being mean to you and go annoy someone else?
Today. Done.
Today.
Done.
LOL, this made me laugh.
LOL, this made me laugh. Such a simple & straightforward statement.
Sounds exactly like my SSs.
Sounds exactly like my SSs. When oldest was 15 he set a fire in his trash can in his bedroom. The fire alarms are going off on the end of the house where his bedroom is. I can smell the smoke only coming from his bedroom. I walk in and ask him what was going on....nothing, no fire. The smell doesn't go away, alarms still going so I keep checking and find that he put the trash can with the fire outside his bedroom window. Really? Was he freakin serious that he thought I was that stupid? I called and made him an appt for counseling after that. His dad felt i was making a bigger deal out of this than need-be, said his son was just experimenting. Funny how serious the counselor took it!!
So be honest with us now.....were you covering up your shaving byt blaming SS? LOL!!!! Okay, maybe not funny....mean to be a joke though. I would have reacted the same way you did. Geesh these kids!!
Setting fires, sounds way
Setting fires, sounds way worse than my situation. Glad you got your way with the counselling.
LOL to your second remark. I wouldn't have found it funny yesterday but I've calmed down now. There is now way the hairs could have been mine. I follow a regular "maintenance" routine and any hair I do have at any point in time is very short. These hairs were about an inch long. :sick: I'd have legs like a hairy dog - not a look I'm going for.
Step.tococis, I'm dying for
Step.tococis, I'm dying for the itching to kick in. I wouldn't be surprised if he already has razor burns.
DH is smart enough to have cleaned the drains and this morning my whole bathroom was sparkly and shining like new. He did a complete fumigation.
When she wrote DH a hate
When she wrote DH a hate letter so vicious DH won't show it to me or tell me what's in it. If I care about her at all any more it's for DH's sake, not hers.
Wow. I understand stepping
Wow. I understand stepping back for the sake of your sanity but I feel bad for your DH having to deal with the venom.
That's right. This man is
That's right. This man is pretty much the most wonderful human being ever and for her to hate him and spew that venom at him is unbearable and inexcusable to me. How she can think these thoughts reveals to me what's inside her. Not pretty.
Both times, with each useless
Both times, with each useless skid, it was after one lie too many. Everything has a limit.
I technically never gave up
I technically never gave up on Chucky, everyone else has. I no longer see the point of being Don Quixote as it were. It's how they have made me feel. Completely insane chasing non existent ills.
Even though they (SO, MIL, BM and SF) have a psychiatrist saying it's there, they are ignoring it, refusing to believe it, still lying about it, pretending it'll fix itself. So I am letting go. I am 90% of the way there. With the support from here I am doing much better.