Date day - Good or bad? What do you guess?
Well yesterday DH had planned a fun date for the two of us. Lunch at an amazing restaurant is normally uber expensive but does a set Sunday lunch that is really great value.
We started with prosecco. The food was brilliant. The bottle of bordeaux divine.
We were having a great time and had just gotten to coffee and petit fours when his phone started vibrating. He ignored it but it kept going and going so finally checked to see who it was.
YSS was calling to say that he'd had an epileptic fit on the bus into town and had come to surrounded by paramedics.
These things happen but ARGH that was the end of the date day. DH had to rush off to go and find him and get him home.
I decided to check out the shops.
When I got back YSS was fine but resting.
THEN YSS decides at about midnight to get up as he wasn't tired anymore. He gets online to play games with his friends. DH tells him to keep the noise down as he had woken us up.
At 3am he woke us again. DH tells him to go to bed.
At 4am he work us AGAIN. I went and told him in no uncertain terms to GO TO BED and did he realise my alarm was going to be going off in 2 hours to wake me for work.
OMG. The wireless router is moving into my room today and will be on a timer from now on.
Then when I woke up it turns out that he didn't go to bed. He left to go to a friend's house and sent DH a text.
DH and I work to pay the mortgage. I need to be awake and focused during working hours as my job is very numbers orientated. At the moment, I feel like curling up under my desk and sleeping.
DH is at work as had meetings but will be having a "Come to Jesus" conversation with YSS this afternoon.
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ripleyV2 - you are SO right.
ripleyV2 - you are SO right. This is the way of the future in our house.
Thanks for reading my ranting. I have realised that the lack of sleep has turned me into a raving venter. LOL
YSS is 19. I'm just about at
YSS is 19. I'm just about at GFTO today. Told his dad to ship him off to anywhere. Maybe he'd enjoy living with MIL, NOT.
I don't know what exactly I said to him last night but I'm pretty sure I scared the shit out of him. I don't often get mad but when I do it is not pretty.
You are completely right about sleep deprivation and seizures. He's supposed to have a very regimented life but as a teenager its a disaster.
I talked to my aunt and uncle who are both retired drs. They said that the fact that he started his seizures at 15/16 is awful. It is a pattern they've seen dozens of times. Small children can be controlled by parents and settle into a routine by the time they hit their teens. Adults are reasonably sensible so get the dangers. Teenagers are just stupid and don't accept that they have to live by clear rules.
Called my mom who said "All my friends think you are a saint". I think we can translate that to "All my friends think you are nuts".
If the kid actually had an
If the kid actually had an episode of epilepsy he should never be allowed to play e-games for the next day or two. Sorry, but that's totally irresponsible. If your DH has trouble parenting when it comes to electronics, you may try explaining him the impact electronics have on an epileptic person's brain.
His triggers aren't
His triggers aren't electronics or lights or many of the things people think of as being the cause. His is directly linked to his stress levels. When he has a personal crisis (blow up with BM, police dropping case against OSS, losing his job, etc, etc, etc) he has a fit within 48 hours. It makes it a pain to deal with as confrontation and ultimatums will definitely lead to a hospital visit. And his grand mal seizures are horrific. The drs have told him that they could kill him but it doesn't change his behaviour much. At least he's been taking his meds since he moved in with us. At BM's he used to shove them down the back of the sofa. Ick!
I just think the electronics encourage poor behaviour and attitude. They are going if I have my way. I was fantisting this morning about driving over the xbox. }:) tog, you are right: DH is enabling!
I'm normally way disengaged from the whole thing but its hard when it keeps you awake.